INSTRUCTIONS AND PROPHECIES OF THE Blessed MOTHER ALIPIA GOLOSEEVSKY, Kyiv...
You don't have to save the world. Or figuring out how to start your own cooking TV show. Or become Oprah Winfrey tomorrow. No, all you have to do is get started. This article is for those who do not feel alive at work, and for others who are still looking for "their" in life.
Here are 9 tips to help you start setting your direction when you have no idea what to do in life.
1. Offer your services to those who need them
Do you have some abilities or abilities that can help people? Find a way to help someone do something, anything. Can you believe that you can help people, including teaching adults to read? Or that teaching English is a popular skill that many people around the world are looking for?
Sending emails requires some knowledge. And there is a great need for people to learn basic programs like Word and Excel. People also need help with the most basic tasks such as typing letters, sending emails, posting social media updates, and many other simple tasks.
You have abilities that can help other people. By giving this one thing you have time, you will have the opportunity to get a better idea of what you love to do and draw inspiration from the process.
2. Write about it
Are you passionate about a topic, career, or new business? I found that one of effective ways to gain more knowledge about new topics and areas of interest is to write about it. A blog is a great tool for sharing, teaching, learning and exploring your passion. Starting a blog is not very difficult and provides you with an easy online way to share, stay up to date and follow your passion.
If you are interested in cooking, try out your recipes and share them through the blog with your friends and family. A blog will cost a lot less than opening a restaurant!
If you want to become a writer, share what you write on your blog to see how your writing resonates. If you are interested in advancing your career at work, write about the things that are important in your industry.
3. Read the books on the shelf
Books are greatly underestimated, but they are amazing coaches, teachers, guides and consultants. People have left us invaluable advice, wisdom and guidance through books. The most inspiring and established personalities have written books full of topical and practical advice.
You will not be able to sit dinner table with Eckhart Tolle, Donald Trump, Seth Godin for life advice, but you can buy their books or borrow them from the library to get their ideas, tips and strategies. These people willingly and willingly give you a couple of hours of their time for less than fifteen dollars!
Not ready to go and buy another book? Take the books that are already on your shelf and read them. Take a few notes as you read and apply them to your life.
4. Be aware of what brings you to life
Even at work or at home, there are things that you do just because you like it. They bring you joy, delight and fun. What do you like to do?
No, you can't swim at work, but can you fill your work day with activities you love? Or can you remember what actually brings you joy at work? You, for example, may hate sales meetings, but you may enjoy giving seminars. You may despise giving reports, but you may love writing white papers.
Think about what you like and dislike doing at work. Pay attention to the tasks that you like, and you gravitate towards them the most.
5. Get out of the house
Get outside and start doing something. It doesn't have to be related to your career or your life goals. Get out and see something new. Visit a museum or lecture. Do what makes you feel most comfortable, and ideally free, so you can get inspired.
If you've never left your hometown, book a ticket. No, you don't have to be like Chris Guilbaud (and visit 193 countries), but you could visit your grandparents' home. Or just visit a city you've never been to, or take a trip to a country you've always wanted to visit.
You may just find a life partner, your dream job, or a life purpose in a new environment. At the very least, you will see something different from the ordinary and the possibility of change in perspective.
6. Talk to someone else besides the cat
Your pet may be a great conversationalist and an ideal companion, but he will not be able to contribute to your personal growth.
If you are interested in any new area or industry, find someone you can talk to about it. Take their ideas, perspectives and advice. If you ask them about the right way, people will be happy to share with you how they achieved their goal or passed their life path.
Instead of jumping into a new career race or running new blog, talk to someone about the viability of your new idea.
7. Meet your like-minded people
If there is an area of your interest where you want to go in a new direction or need a different job, get out of where you are and start meeting people who are doing what you want to do. The easiest way to meet people in the industry you are interested in is to go to themed meetings. People in every industry and field have groups created on the internet.
There are meetings of writers. Blogger meetings. Freelancers meet (even if they do it online). Restaurant owners also go to special appointments for them. There are meetings of actuaries! Take a friend with you and go to one of these meetings to meet new people and explore your desired industry.
8. Work for a penny
Yes, sometimes it takes some experience to learn more about a desired industry or break into a new element. Not better way to do it than work for free. Volunteering and internship opportunities at any age will help you experience the full cost of a new field.
And you don't really work for pennies. In exchange for your services, you get experience, you improve your CV, you make contacts in the industry you want, you get good recommendation if you did everything right and showed yourself well.
9. Take courses and seminars
Instead of paying a huge amount of money to study and get a master's degree that you may never need or before becoming a dentist, first carefully consider what you desire.
If you are interested in a new field or subject, start with weekend courses or seminars. They are much cheaper, take less time and less dedication. Use them to test your interest in something new. There are online workshops for everything from media and creation own product to acquiring new skills such as trust and creating difficult habits.
If you're flustered and confused, start with one of the above ways to test your interest in something new. Start small and take a few steps each day, trying out different things to see how interested you are in them.
Small steps and experimentation will create momentum and help you on your way to achieving your goal.
Modern society suffers from irritability and aggression, all this is a routine life in a hurry and without respite. Enough a large number of people live in a state of aggression, irritability, depression and do not even know what to do with it if everything is tired. Any episodes of manifestation of these states can be attributed to the world Still, it may be a matter of the very life style of a person. Sometimes even small trifles irritate and infuriate, nothing brings joy, people and everything around are irritated. People in a state when everything is infuriating and tired, incur huge psychological problems, which often only a psychotherapist will help to cope with.
What to do if everything is tired and tired
Sometimes people ask this question every day, while a person may be aware of the specific reason for his condition or the reason for his hatred of others may be unconscious. Often, the weariness of a person from worries and daily inventing of life goals leads precisely to a state of annoyance and irritation. In such an environment, you can get angry at absolutely everything: people, public transport schedules, store assortment, weather, government, even your own behavior. A person with such a rhythm of life spoils the relationship with the people around him, even with those close to him, the most important, conflicts at work, everyone gets tired of him, and even the subject himself.
The state when everything got tired and tired is accompanied by the lowest emotion in terms of emotionality -. So anger, anger or hot flashes tend to break out, a person experiences these emotions, and gets rid of them in a timely manner. Irritability - an emotion that tends to stretch, lasts large gap time, it is like charcoal - it will smolder for a very long time. The reasons for the emergence of a state when everything is tired and tired are often increased stress on the psyche of the individual, the consequences: family troubles, problems with friends, at work, all this reboots and exudes our nervous system.
Violation of the adequate functioning of the human nervous system leads to mental disorders and the emergence of increased irritability of the individual. Right at this moment, everything infuriates and gets, even the rustle outside the window or behind. A fundamental role in a period when everything is fed up and infuriating can be played by emotional overstrain, fatigue at work, lack of sleep, dreams that have already come true, lack of rest, sexual dissatisfaction, hormonal disorders. The manifestations of such a state proceed in each individual in their own way: someone, actively gesticulating, expresses his state by changing the voice tone (sharp transitions from a high tone to a low one), someone flares up like a match for absolutely the slightest reason, someone holds back everything emotions in himself, tries to avoid others, always grumbles. The consequences of such a nervous breakdown can be catastrophic for the individual.
In search of a solution to problems with irritability, you should often turn to. The essence of the emergence of a state when everything is fed up and infuriates, can be hidden in dreams that have already come true, after the implementation of which, the meaning of life is supposedly lost. A person, dreaming about something, experiences an incredible sense of satisfaction and craving for life, realizing that this dream will certainly come true. After experiencing the success and excitement of a forgotten dream, there comes a period of emptiness, as if something was stolen from a person’s life. The subject feels the need for a new goal, and begins to invent it, having achieved it, he again feels chagrin. All this way to the implementation of the plan, of course, contributes to the improvement of the personality, its development, helps to become more successful, more purposeful, but it always leads the person to a dead end - when everything infuriates and bothers. What should be done? You need to come up with a dream that you should strive for all your life, and all the small goals that have come true on the way to a grandiose dream will be, as it were, steps to success. And the subject on the way to the great will not perceive the satisfaction of these goals as disappointment, but perceive it as an experience and another plus for success. It is important that this grandiose goal becomes for you the meaning of life, captivates and pushes you to move forward.
A man, a being who is never enough of something, he is always striving to achieve more and more. In the absence of desire and opportunity, analyze what you have and love it. Many people around do not even have a part of what you have. A person must learn to rejoice that he has achieved something and that he has the opportunity to achieve even more. As the capabilities of the subject increase, so does the number of needs. Accordingly, it is easier to learn to enjoy life by limiting yourself to something not so important.
What to do if everything gets boring quickly
With the help of irritability, our body often calls us to action, it hints that we need to listen to ourselves. People are often forced to change jobs often, start various novels, move from their place of residence, change hobbies five times a week. Sometimes a person enthusiastically, taking on a new business, giving it the status of the most desirable, immediately switches to something else, in a completely different direction. Such people say that they are quickly bored with everything, and they are chasing impressions, running away from the daily routine. Why does everything quickly get bored, is it worth it to resist. After all, many scientists say that by changing work or place of residence, you can get rid of the feeling of irritability and still love life. But isn't it a mistake to make such frequent changes in life?
Often, everything bothers people who have been living an uncertain life since childhood. For example, the kid sits, plays, lays out the cubes, and then he is told that he needs to go get ready, because he needs to go for a walk. When a child shows his creation (a drawing, a figurine made of plasticine, a designer) to his parents, he expects praise, but instead of deserved attention, not allowing the child to enjoy success, the parents switch the child's attention to the creativity of others. Or they often say that next time you need to try to do better. Imperceptibly, the baby gets used to situations where his achievement, in principle, has practically no meaning, for example, if he has achieved something, he already needs to strive for another action. Growing up, all this is aggravated even more, and already in adulthood, a person ceases to appreciate what he has. Under any conditions, he sees a catch, a flaw and begins to find fault with trifles, this quickly gets boring and a person strives to start something more.
There are a lot of examples of such behavior during the upbringing of a baby, often he simply does not know his daily routine, what his duties are and what awaits him as a result of the work done. From this time on, the subject develops the ability to do everything very quickly, grab everything on the fly and run, because he is aware in his heart that he can be interrupted at any moment. Instantly during this period, the blood enters great amount adrenaline due to increased energy consumption. In the presence of adrenaline in the blood, the subject acts at an accelerated pace, with time there is a decrease, the previous balance in the body is restored and, accordingly, the person loses all interest and gets bored with everything. Since the body of the individual requires a new surge of adrenaline, he changes his actions and looks for another thing.
Such people have problems with their personal lives. A person falls in love very quickly, builds a perspective for the future, is just as instantly disappointed in his partner, as a result, the couple quickly disperses. According to the famous psychoanalyst Jean-David Nazio, a person does this unconsciously. This behavior is typical for individuals who in childhood were attached to one parent. When such an individual grows up, unconsciously denies the feeling of love for a person who is able to take the place of his mother or father in the soul. Loneliness is a life path to which such an individual condemns himself, not accepting emotional attachment to the subject of passion.
What to do if everyone got tired and tired? First, give an assessment of the current situation. Determine what exactly the problem is, if friends, a loved one, absolutely everything bother you, then maybe the root of the difficulties lies precisely in your actions. Determine the level of the problem, to what extent its consequences can be devastating or interfere with the lives of those around you. After that, you should decide whether you can handle it on your own or you need to contact a psychotherapist.
To solve the problem yourself, you need:
- learn to beware of anticipations, adventures;
- to be able, through awareness of the problem, to continue to act contrary to their desires;
- with every desire to start a new business, remember that it is human nature to idealize what is desired, in fact - everything will end the same way;
- accustom yourself to set specific goals and not put high hopes in them, to realize from the beginning that the goals will be achieved, and you will need to build new tasks;
- noticing that everything around you is changing quickly, set an ultimatum, agree with yourself to stay at work for more than a year, finish the work you have started and take on the next one, do not run away from love relationships.
It is useless to be angry at the world and people around or at yourself. After all, human life is interesting precisely because it has ups and downs, mistakes, failures and disappointments. Due to the strong expenditure of energy, human nervous system is rapidly depleted, therefore, you need to learn to control your behavior. Psychologists recommend spending some period of your life playing, forgetting about time, defusing the situation, breaking away to the fullest, as in childhood, looking at life from a different perspective. After that, reconsider your life position and goals. They will need to be corrected and lived without trying to please someone.
Many people occasionally fall into a kind of emotional vacuum, when only bad thoughts come into their heads, and everything simply falls out of their hands. What to do if everyone got tired and tired? This question has been asked by everyone at least once on the path of life. Such situations often appear as a result of serious troubles, disappointment or loss of direction in life. Most predisposed to the indicated state are people prone to depressive states. In this case, the choice of specific lines of behavior depends on the individual, and the result of resolving the problem depends on the degree of effort and desire applied to correct the situation. If a person intends to correct the situation, he freely moves towards the problem, which worries him. Without striving for goals and solutions to difficulties, the subject experiences a state of apathy, everything is tired, life is insignificant. A person who lives in harmony with himself and outside world, will not suffer from feelings of irritability, boredom and apathy.
Return interest in life, a person can different ways. The most desirable option is to change everything. Change the direction of vision of objects and situations. A person who often finds himself in the place of the victim must learn to take responsibility for his life. change jobs, appearance, social circle, wardrobe. Often a person, instead of acting towards solving a problem, closes deeper and deeper into himself, moving away from others. It is difficult, but really useful, to analyze the reasons for your actions, to turn inside yourself.
People will say: “it’s good for those who have the opportunity to quit everything and change their lives, when everything is tired, what should be done for those who do not have financial stability or have relatives that you can’t stop caring about?”. In such conditions, psychologists recommend another a good option problem solving - “let off steam”, let out all negative emotions and aggression. Absolutely surrender to the desire to express everything and everyone, it is impossible, everything must be rational. Take a shower, shout at the water, there is an option to go to the forest to break a couple of plates and shout to nowhere, take your soul away. 
You need a change in yourself. Why change yourself if a person is satisfied with everything in his own behavior? Perhaps, if everyone gets it and everything is wrong, the person got it himself? As a result, it is necessary to change the attitude towards the personalities surrounding the subject, to the environment in which he lives. In fact, it is much more difficult than just changing jobs or places of residence. The worldview of the subject is changeable, but this will require a lot of strength and persuasion with oneself, while internal personality changes will not harm the people surrounding the person and the reputation of the individual himself.
Pay attention, if we see in another person what we cannot afford, it irritates us and puts us into a state of apathy. Perhaps the reason is that a person has surrounded himself with cruel frames and does not allow himself to do something crazy: a hairstyle, a tattoo or a piercing. It is possible to go from a state of excitability and hatred for everything in life, but this is all individual. Each individual decides for himself what to do and what to leave for later, to live in depression all the time. Change own life from within.
Start with the elementary:
- a new breakfast, drinking coffee or tea from an unusual mug for you;
- find an activity that relaxes you: swimming pool, simple bathing, massage, walking;
– Be sure to adjust the sleep mode;
- Do your favorite sport. Initially, realize that it is health that affects your internal state, physical activity daily increases the amount of hormones of happiness in the subject's body;
- get busy, work on your thoughts. Learn to be tolerant and tolerant;
– it’s time to make the daily routine way to work creative or useful: write poetry, make plans for your life changes;
- call your friends and relatives to help you, do not hesitate to admit your despair.
Most importantly, under any circumstances, it is strictly forbidden to sit still, to remind you of the troubles that have been or may be taking place. It's just a waste of precious time. Healthy sleep, simple walking, walks with meaning, this is all that will help and will bear fruit very quickly. Appreciate what you have. The life of a man is short and unexpected, to waste time on and annoyances. In any situation, time is needed and everyone can find a path that suits his personality.
Before everyone on Earth and more than once the question arose of what to do when you do not know what to do. The very occurrence of the question does not mean that the situation is necessarily tragically hopeless, it can simply be confusion due to the loss of some link in the chain of events or simply unwillingness to do anything. In the latter case, the exclamation is appropriate: “I don’t know what to do!”
Just gotta do something
There is a statement that there are no hopeless situations. However, for a person in trouble, this is little consolation, because in a global sense, such a statement still implies death as a way out of the impasse. It's very dark. If we return to more life-affirming provisions, then in the situation of “what to do when you don’t know what to do”, the person who faced this question must be supported and together try to find a way out of the situation. Of course, at such moments it is very necessary to be near loving person. Firstly, he will not rejoice at the misfortune that has fallen, which is already good. Secondly, as they say, two heads are better. Nowadays, most often arise due to lack of money. And there is only one way out - to try to find them. Advice can only be of a purely individual nature. How to take some steps in the right direction, will tell close person. After all, he knows about the situation firsthand.
Time is the best healer
The situation “what to do when you don’t know what to do” acquires a tragic color in the event of the departure of a loved one. There can only be one piece of advice here - we must try to survive it somehow. Again, it is not in vain that he claims that time is the best healer. That's why she is wisdom, which is made up of millions of similar situations. At the moment of acute experience, this is little consolation, but still. It remains only to enjoy the presence of the Internet! Having a friend is good. What if he suffers from tongue-tied tongue? On the Internet on this topic - poems, proverbs, advice and, most importantly, all kinds of trainings. Popular wisdom claims that you need to sleep with trouble, in the morning it will not be easier, but there will be a feeling that life goes on, and you have to fight for it. This is where trainings are appropriate, with the help of which a person will sooner or later be able to understand
We must remember that life is "striped"
It is impossible to distract a person at a moment of acute grief or when the situation seems completely hopeless to him, you must try to calm him down, most likely with the help of the necessary medicines. There are, of course, radical actions - a new stress, that is, as they say, a wedge with a wedge. Not everyone will survive.
One reasonable conclusion arises, following, again, from folk wisdom- peremeletsya - flour will be. That is, to the question of what to do when you don’t know what to do, there is an answer - you need to somehow continue to live. Songs are sung about this. What can be done in this situation? You need to somehow get together or at least try to do it. It is shameful, but necessary, in relation to this situation, to assert such truths as: “You will be helped proper nutrition and active sports fresh air". However, this is true. Today a piece does not go down the throat, tomorrow the same thing, but the body will take its toll, and this will be the first step towards recovery. And when a person “resolves” the situation, his joy will be huge, sincere and incomparable with anything. Maybe it is these strong sensations that adrenaline hunters lack, who do not have hopeless situations. Although no extreme can be compared with the depth of feelings of sincere grief or joy.
It's not always so scary
The phrase “I don’t even know what to do” can have a flirtatious connotation and mean the impossibility of choosing from a large number wonderful proposals, and even admiring this situation. However, this happens very rarely. There are situations when a person who is subject to someone or something does not know what to do due to the lack of orders from above. There are many recommendations. Not the best of them, but suitable for certain situations, these are tips on what to this case it's better to do nothing. Better yet, relax, focus on inner world(meditate) and, if possible, sleep. And this is the best of all recommendations. Meditation, like conversation with God, is not available to everyone.
There are times when you just don't feel like doing something. If the form of this reluctance becomes severe, then this is called depression. A person loses interest in everything, his self-esteem is underestimated - and then it’s time for those around him to exclaim: “I don’t know what to do simply!” Contact a doctor.
The approach to the problem is always individual
There are dozens of tips on what to do when you don't know what to do. They advise you to dig, nibble on a stick, take a step forward, even flip through a menu or go shopping. Each advice is deeply individual and implies a specific situation.
It is much easier for a believer to collect his thoughts in a difficult situation. First, he is used to relying on God and believes that He will help him anyway. This belief in itself is a tangible part of the guarantee of a way out of the impasse. Secondly, a deeply religious person always has an interlocutor, or rather, one to whom one can turn with questions. The questions themselves and their own answers to them are mental activity, that is, the search for a way out of the situation. Conversation with God is also comfort, and These actions make sense only for people who deeply and sincerely believe. They are always protected. And if a person is an atheist or faith goes in parallel with real life?
Finish the unfinished
If the situation does not balance on the verge of life and death, then there are enough ways out of an ordinary impasse, which occurs often in life. There is no optimal recipe, except how to sit down and calm down, collect your thoughts. People are different, but most of them have accumulated a lot of things that they would like to do, but various circumstances interfered, or maybe they didn’t have enough strength for a hobby. It's time to clean up your collections.
And now everything has changed - the main objective life, its driving force disappeared for a while. It's time to do things that have been postponed for "later". You can put things in order in the house, you can review old films, read a book for which there was not enough time. You can leave and see long-desired places. Or, finally, just sit down at the computer, and on the Internet and read, and look, and see, and even put some things in order. Again, all this is possible in a situation where a person is full, healthy and nothing threatens life. In all other provisions there is a goal - it is necessary to specifically look for a way out.
I often see people whose lives are riddled with suffering and full of pessimism. They complain about fate, family, work, society and the state. They do not see the light at the end of the tunnel and believe that someone else is to blame for their plight. Even I, a person who is far from the most cheerful disposition, next to them seems like a model of an energetic joker. So sometimes, when they ask me what needs to be done to change everything, I think for a while and give them a couple of tips.
Without claiming to be great achievements in the field of personal growth, in today's post I have collected all such things that I have ever heard, applied or advised. All of them are checked for own experience, and I will be glad if it will be useful to someone.
1. Find out what you really like. This is the most important and the most difficult. Golden Rule says - do what gives you real pleasure, and then you will become much happier. With the development of the Internet, everything has become even easier - the results of your efforts are very easy to convey to the public, and they will definitely appreciate them. What's more, having a cause that really fires you up is a key attraction factor for the opposite sex. But one must be prepared for the fact that the search for one's path is a marathon that can last for many (dozens?) years.
2. Give up the garbage that you eat, drink and smoke every day. No secrets and cunning diets - just natural food, fruits, vegetables, water. You don’t have to become a vegetarian and stop drinking completely – just limit sugar, flour, coffee, alcohol and all plastic food as much as possible.
3. Learn foreign languages. This will unrealistically expand the depth of perception of the world and open up unprecedented opportunities for learning, development and career growth. There are 60 million Russian-speaking Internet users. English speakers - a billion. The center of progress is now on the other side of the border, including the language one. Knowledge of English is no longer just a whim of intellectuals, but a vital necessity.
4. Read books. Approximate circle - your professional field, history, natural science, personal growth, sociology, psychology, biographies, qualitative fiction. No time to read because you drive - listen to audiobooks. The golden rule is to read/listen to at least one book a week. That's 50 books a year that will change your life.
5. Make the most of every weekend. Go to a museum, an exhibition, go in for sports, go out of town, jump with a parachute, visit relatives, go to good film. Expand your contact area with the world. When you have already traveled around and around everything, take your friends with you and tell them what you know. The main thing is not to sit still. The more impressions you let through yourself, the more interesting life will be, and the better you will understand things and phenomena.
6. Start a blog or regular diary. No matter what. It does not matter that you do not have eloquence and you will have no more than 10 readers. The main thing is that on its pages you will be able to think and reason. And if you just regularly write about what you love, readers will definitely come.
7. Set goals. Fix them on paper, in Word or a blog. The main thing is that they be clear, understandable and measurable. If you set a goal, you can either achieve it or not. If you do not put, then there are no options for achieving at all.
8. Learn to type on the keyboard- not being able to do this in the 21st century is the same as not being able to write with a pen in the 20th. Time is one of the few treasures you have, and you should be able to type almost as fast as you can think. And you should not think about where the desired letter is, but about what you write.
9. Saddle time. Learn to manage your affairs so that they work almost without your participation. For starters, read Allen (Getting Things Done) or Gleb Arkhangelsky. Make decisions quickly, act immediately, do not postpone "for later." All things either do or delegate to someone. Try not to let the ball linger in your side. Write down on the sheet all the "long-playing" things that have not yet been done and prevent you from living. Rethink whether you need them (remembering point 1). Do what is left for a few days, and you will feel incredible lightness.
10. Give up computer games, aimlessly sitting on social networks and stupidly surfing the Internet. Minimize communication in social networks (up to optimization - leave only one account). Destroy in the apartment television antenna. So as not to constantly check email, install an agent that will inform you about incoming messages (including mobile).
12. Learn to get up early. The paradox is that in the early hours you always have more time than in the evening. If you leave Moscow at 7 am on weekends in the summer, then by 10 am you will already be in Yaroslavl. If you leave at 10, you will be there in the best case for dinner. The same goes for weekend shopping. A person needs 7 hours of sleep, subject to high-quality physical activity and normal nutrition.
13. Try to surround yourself with decent, honest, open, intelligent and successful people. We are our environment from which we learn everything we know. Spend more time with people you respect and learn from (it's especially important that your bosses fall into that category). Accordingly, try to minimize communication with people who are negative, dull, pessimistic and angry. In order to get taller, you have to strive upwards, and having people nearby that you want to grow up to will be a great incentive in itself.
14. Use every moment of time and every person to learn something new. If life brings you together with a professional in any field, try to understand what is the essence of his work, what are his motivations and goals. Learn to ask the right questions - even a taxi driver can be an invaluable source of information.
15. Start traveling. It does not matter that there is no money for Argentina and New Zealand– the quality of rest has nothing to do with the money spent, and my best trips were to regions that are not at all distinguished by pathos and high cost. When you see how diverse the world is, you will stop obsessing over small space around you, and you will become more tolerant, calmer and wiser.
16. Buy a camera(maybe the simplest) and try to catch the beauty of the world. When you succeed, you will remember your travels not only by vague impressions, but also by beautiful photos that you brought with you. Alternatively, try drawing, singing, dancing, sculpting, designing. That is, do something that will make you look at the world with different eyes.
17. Do some sports. It is not necessary to go to a fitness club where jocks, pick-up artists, Balzac ladies and freaks hang out. Yoga, rock climbing, biking, horizontal bars, bars, football, running, plyometrics, swimming, functional training - best friends a person who wants to restore the tone of the body and get a surge of endorphins. And forget about what an elevator is - if you have to walk less than 10 floors, use your legs. In just 3 months of methodical work on yourself, you can change the body almost beyond recognition.
18. Do extraordinary things. Go somewhere you've never been before, take a different route to work, sort out a problem you don't know anything about. Get out of your "comfort zone", expand your knowledge and horizons. Rearrange the furniture at home (and do it about once a year), change your appearance, hairstyle, image.
19. Invest. Ideally, every month it is worth investing part of your income, because a rich person is not someone who earns a lot, but someone who invests a lot. Try to invest in assets, minimize liabilities and control expenses. If you set yourself a financial goal and put your personal money in order, you will be surprised at how easily you will move towards achieving it. (more)
20. Get rid of junk. Throw away anything you haven't worn or used in a while. last year(you won't get to them next year either). Leave only what you really like and need. It's a pity to throw it away - distribute it. When buying a new item, get rid of the old similar one so that the balance is maintained. Less stuff means less dust and headaches.
21. Give more than you take. Share knowledge, experience and ideas. A person who not only takes, but also shares, is incredibly attractive. Surely you know something that others really want to learn. Coaching was a discovery for me at one time - I began to give trainings and lectures on a voluntary and free basis, which eventually grew into a very big story that brings me both moral and material satisfaction.
22. Accept the world as it is. Give up value judgments, accept all phenomena as initially neutral. And even better - as unambiguously positive.
23. Forget what happened in the past. It has nothing to do with your future. Take with you from there only experience, knowledge, a good relationship and positive impressions.
24. Don't be afraid. There are no insurmountable obstacles, and all doubts live only in your head. You don't have to be a warrior, you just need to see the goal, avoid obstacles and know that you will achieve it without a single chance to experience failure.
25. The last, it is the first. Do what you like. Learn. Learn. Develop. Change yourself from within.
This is by no means an exhaustive list. But even if you systematically do at least some of this, then after a year, looking at yourself in the mirror, you will not recognize yourself. And the world will simply have no choice but to follow your example and change in response.
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Are you completely confused?
There is darkness in the head, fog around, thoughts are more difficult to catch than a perch with your bare hands?
And this state, unfortunately, is not a consequence of a pleasant and cheerful holiday. Or rather his long absence?
And you don't like where you are right now? No, I'm not talking about walls (although they can annoy you). I'm about life situation. You didn’t dream about it at all and aspired not here?
Then you have come to the right place. Your time has come make decisions and change lives. How?
Enough questions, let's move on to the answers.
What to do when you don't know what to do?
Step one - calm down
Put your hands down, stop tantrums, stop tearing your hair out and swooning from uncertainty. Allow yourself to relax: take a bath, drink a cup of coffee (tea, compote). Cognac is better not to get involved. If possible, be sure to sleep well.
Step two - forward to nature
How often people in cities, especially large ones, close themselves in their birdhouses. And if you are reading these lines,then you probably periodically dive into social networks , personal diaries, network games and othersdelights of the internet, from which it is not so easy to escape even for a person with a stable psyche.
So, forward to nature! Preferably for a week. But if circumstances do not allow - for the whole day. If it’s really bad - for 2-3 hours in the park with a dog, with a bicycle, roller skates, c children or simply, alone with yourself, contemplating the harmony of nature and enjoying the beauty of the current season.
After that, it will begin to dissipate, the anxiety will melt. And useful thoughts descend from Olympus. If this did not happen, then
Step three - release
Take a piece of paper and write down everything you don't like about your life. Describe in detail the situation in which you have driven yourself, or someone has driven you. Describe "someone" well too, just in case (he won't know about it). Don't spare paper.
And now, attention is an important point:
Make up your mind that you really don't like it. Then you can, without much regret, part once and for all with an unloved job, with emotions of fear, pity, anger.
and to yourself first and foremost. will set you free and give you extra energy.
If something is a pity, you will have to live as you lived until you press it again. 😉
Step four - break the connection
Second important point:
Analyze what led you to this situation, and what conclusions you can draw from this. What did life want to tell you when it planted such a pig? If you do not do this, then very quickly you will again be left with nothing. Then write down all findings on separate sheet, but better in notepad.
Step Five - Brainstorm
Imagine that a neighbor came to you and told about his troubles (troubles, oddly enough, are exactly yours).
give him 101 advice on getting out of this situation. Write whatever comes to mind: janitor, before bowing to the President of America. The wider, farther, deeper, higher, and freer you think, the more realistic and viable options will begin to emerge.
Have you written? Can have a smokedrink tea. It's good to make another outing into nature.
