INSTRUCTIONS AND PROPHECIES OF THE Blessed MOTHER ALIPIA GOLOSEEVSKY, Kyiv...
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What makes you feel like an inferior person? Childhood trauma or your own appearance? Do you experience constant insecurity and peacefully sit on the sidelines while others enjoy the triumph? To find the right solution, you need to identify the main symptoms of an inferiority complex. So let's get started.
Before identifying the signs, it is important to understand that self-doubt does not characterize this disorder. Yes, this is one of the components, but the complex includes several psychological aspects that work together. Eliminate one symptom, others will follow.
In most cases, notorious people are ambivalent about the words of praise. They are looking for a catch in everything, as a result of which confidence in the opponent is lost. Behavior is due to the fact that a person considers himself unworthy kind words, even in those moments when he really deserves them. Some believe that a malicious grin is hidden behind the compliment, others claim that the speaker is lying, and still others think that they are simply being flattered.
A person suffering from an inferiority complex is much more worried about insults and bad experience. As a rule, a defensive reaction manifests itself in a rude form, as a result of which such people seem to be angry and unpleasant interlocutors.
People who experience an inferiority complex are afraid to seem ridiculous. They lock themselves up and sit on the sidelines, being alone with themselves. Don't be like them, you don't have to be a hermit.
The most common and compelling reason for the development of complexes. A person who is unsure of personal potential is definitely doomed to failure. Do you think that Fedka from work is doing an excellent job, while Anka has a more expensive car? Maybe, but that doesn't mean they're better than you. Each has its own strengths, one is strong in mathematics, the other is a philologist to the core.
Stop constantly analyzing your own actions, do not look for flaws in appearance and do not look back. Such behavior is the best characterizes a notorious person.
Notorious people take criticism personally, which creates a feeling of inferiority. After the words spoken by the opponent, the person sits and eats himself from the inside.
Do you feel like an inferior person? Communicate more with positive people, do not isolate yourself from others, allow yourself to live happily. Respond appropriately to compliments, focus only on constructive criticism. Stop looking for flaws in appearance, demeanor and character, relax. Believe in yourself!
Each person has certain complexes. Inferiority complex is a negative self-image, often accompanied by low self-esteem and self-doubt. In 1912, psychologist Alfred Adler published The Neurotic Character. The research presented in this book formed the basis of a new direction in psychology - the study of the inferiority complex. In psychology, the feeling of inferiority is defined as negative experiences (shame, anxiety, worry, etc.) that arise in situations where a person feels inferior to others in some way.
An inferiority complex arises when comparing oneself with some standards, parameters (in appearance, behavior, abilities, etc.) and one's inconsistency with these parameters. Think about why, in fact, we have to adjust ourselves to some standards, because each of us is unique, and this is wonderful. We do not compare chamomile and cornflower, each flower is beautiful in its own way. Life is beautiful in its diversity. Learn to appreciate and enjoy your uniqueness!
A complex person is characterized by constant dissatisfaction with himself, self-criticism, belittling himself and his merits. He feels less likeable, less capable, less worthy (the list goes on and on) than others.
We all love to be supported and approved. But when the need for approval becomes too strong, when a person is oriented primarily to what others will say, and not to his own opinion, he loses his footing. His state of mind, his mood becomes directly dependent on the people around him. People feel this very well and begin to manipulate this person. Learn to focus primarily on your feelings and opinions.
If you are suffering from feelings of inferiority, the suggestions below will help you combat this negative feeling. An inferiority complex usually develops in childhood when our parents or teachers compare us to other people, pointing out our shortcomings (with the best of intentions). For example: “Look at Sasha, he always brings home fours and fives. And you?" The good news is that by changing your attitude, your thoughts, you can gradually overcome your inferiority complex.
Primarily, determine the cause of your complex. Recall your childhood, your negative childhood or teenage memories. Maybe your classmates teased you? Was your first teacher constantly scolding? Was your mother often unhappy? etc. Select the 2-3 most traumatic situations and write down the following questions for each situation:
Now look at all these accusations and unflattering words addressed to you from the perspective of an adult. You were a child, you didn’t have much knowledge and experience, it’s natural that you made mistakes, couldn’t cope with something ... You still consider yourself not very smart just because in the 3rd grade you didn’t know how to solve problems well and the teacher called you stupid? A good teacher wouldn't say that. As a child, you accepted the words of adults as truth, without doubting that they were right. But in many cases they were WRONG!
It's time to re-evaluate all of your negative beliefs that you've been carrying around since childhood. Write down all the negative beliefs in the left column, and then next to each write a new positive belief.
For example:
Cut off the left side and burn it, and hang the new beliefs in a prominent place and reread them every day until they become natural to you.
Change your negative self-talk to a more positive one.
Track your thoughts. When negative thoughts appear, such as “I am the worst dressed at this party”, “No one talks to me, they think I'm weird”, “I'm a coward, I'm afraid to speak in front of people”, immediately replace them with positive or neutral ones. Develop the habit of thinking about yourself in a positive way. It is difficult, it takes time and perseverance on your part. But without changing your thoughts, you will not be able to get rid of the inferiority complex!
Look into yourself. Analyze and write down what your strengths and weaknesses are. It is very important. Knowing yourself will help you deal with criticism better. Ask your loved ones to help you identify your strengths and weaknesses. By the way, there should be no less advantages than disadvantages.
Another important step in the treatment of an inferiority complex: acknowledge your weaknesses. Do not ignore them, but do not complex about this either. We all have flaws, we are all human (complex people tend to think that their list of flaws is much longer than others, but this is not so). When you know your shortcomings, you can do something about it. Take an active position. Remember, everything can be changed. If you can't dance, sign up for a dance studio. If you are overweight, start going to the gym.
Focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses. Every time an inferiority complex wakes up in you, you begin to feel inferior to others in some way, remember your strengths. For example: “Yes, I still don’t know how to dance as beautifully as Valya, but I sing beautifully, but Valya doesn’t.” Be persistent. If thoughts about your own inferiority arise dozens of times a day, then you need to consciously shift your attention from your shortcomings to your virtues just as many times. Gradually, this will become a habit, and you will happily notice that yours (an article with valuable recommendations).
Don't take criticism personally. This is just another person's subjective opinion. If there is some truth in the criticism, take note of it, but take it as a criticism of your actions, not your personality. Remember that the cause of your inferiority complex is not events and other people, but your reaction to them. How you feel and think about yourself after a negative situation will determine whether you feel inferior or not.
For example, a close relative called you a selfish person who thinks only of himself, because you refused to help him in something. Instead of judging yourself and feeling guilty, step back a bit from the situation. Think of all the times you helped this relative. Maybe he is used to the fact that you are always ready to help, and already takes your help for granted? Perhaps you had a good reason to refuse. Etc. When you begin to objectively assess the situation, you are more likely to avoid feelings of inferiority and self-criticism.
Surround yourself with upbeat, optimistic people. Communicating with them will support and inspire you to make positive changes in yourself and your life.
People with an inferiority complex often avoid communication. Even if they have a circle of acquaintances, they are reserved and do not open up to people. Tip - you need to face your fear and practice communication as often as possible. You will soon feel that people are not laughing at you, criticizing you at every turn, and that they are well aware of your sincerity.
Constantly develop physically, spiritually, mentally. Always learn something new. You can do it yourself or go to some courses, interest clubs. When you successfully master some new skills and abilities, your self-esteem and self-esteem grow.
Choose a role model for yourself. It can be a real person from your environment or some famous person, or even the hero of a book or movie. Take credit for his strengths. Play the role of this person, even if at first it seems to you that it is false and unnatural. Gradually, this feeling of artificiality will pass, and its virtues will indeed become yours.
Read positive, inspiring books. I recommend books by Louise Hay, Joseph Murphy, Vladimir Sinelnikov, Alexander Sviyash, Anatoly Nekrasov, Robin Sharma, Brian Tracy, Anthony Robbins, and others.
Be sure to start personal diary , in which you will record the events of the past day, your successes, your thoughts. Set aside at least 10-15 minutes each evening for journaling.
If you can not overcome the inferiority complex on your own, look for professional help. Make an appointment with a psychologist, perhaps he will prescribe you some medications(eg, low dose antidepressants). Feel free to do this, in the West, many people turn to psychologists and psychotherapists for help, this is considered completely normal.
An inferiority complex is not a life sentence. Make a firm decision to change your negative mindset into a more positive one. With sincere desire and perseverance, you can get out of the pit of loneliness, despair and depression. Nobody says it will be easy. This will require considerable effort, time and courage from you. Do something every day to change yourself and your life for the better. Sometimes you will want to quit everything, do not give in to such thoughts. Never give up! I would be glad if you share your ways of dealing with an inferiority complex in the comments.
An inferiority complex can be due to various reasons - the attitude of parents, criticism from the side of people around them, frequent "failures". To deal with them, you need to follow the recommendations.
Almost every person knows what self-doubt is, the feeling of worthlessness and uselessness. Often these feelings arise in difficult situations that cannot be dealt with. In other words, an "inferiority complex" appears.
What is it, what are its distinctive features, features and how to get rid of it? Each reader will be able to find out the answers to these questions from the article.
An inferiority complex is the experience of one's uselessness for the people around and inferiority. It is he who is the main cause of all emerging nerves. It seems to a person that he is a defective thing, which, in case of uselessness, can be thrown into the trash.
If you do not get rid of this syndrome in time, then it can cause:
An inferiority complex is accompanied by a number of symptoms, which include:
Attention! Such a complex in many cases causes defects in oral speech.
The lack of faith in oneself is the reason for the impossibility of realizing one's own inclinations. People who are seriously suffering from this complex, when communicating with others, use a “mask” that protects them from feeling their own uselessness.
The cause of the syndrome are doubts about their perfection. An inferiority complex is based on one or more flaws in a person. Often they are imaginary - fictional on their own.
The reasons for the development of the above complex may be different:
Surprisingly, the lack of self-confidence for some people becomes an incentive for their own self-improvement. They find a way to get rid of inferiority and overcome difficulties.
The reason for the development of an inferiority complex in men are often physiological deficiencies. Defective males try to replace them by spending hours on grueling workouts.
Other reasons for the loss of self-confidence in men include:
All this leads to the fact that a person closes in on himself, stops all communication with female representatives, believing that he cannot lead a sexual life.
Men are especially important mother's love. It is she who has the greatest impact on self-esteem and personality of a person.
A man who did not receive support from his mother in childhood and adolescence, most likely, will not be able to realize himself in the future.
Psychologists have noted a trend - the development of an inferiority complex in men increases many times during a decline in the economy and unemployment.
Financial well-being is a reference point indicating the solvency and success of a person. If the need for decent wages not satisfied a long period time, an inferiority complex arises.
An inferiority complex in women develops due to various factors:
Alfred Adler believed that an inferiority complex often develops in girls. This is due to several factors:
A similar syndrome often begins to develop in children. For this, a "push" is needed, which will give rise to the development of the complex. They may become:
To overcome their isolation and feelings of insignificance, psychologists recommend:
Diagnosis of an inferiority complex includes an appeal to a psychotherapist. An individual conversation is held with the client, after which the level of self-esteem of a person and the degree of his complexes are determined. For diagnostics, a specially developed list of questions is used, consisting of thirty provisions.
The main method of treatment is that it is necessary to start life with clean slate. Psychologists recommend getting rid of all past grievances and failures, deciding what do you want to achieve in this life?
How to deal with complexity:
What to do? In addition to the general advice listed above, it is recommended to engage in sports activities, find an exciting activity for yourself, build a daily schedule and eat only healthy food. All this together will certainly give an excellent result.
Thus, everyone can get rid of the inferiority complex, you just have to want to. It is not so easy to cope on your own, but together with the help of a psychologist or psychotherapist it is much easier.
What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear these words? A downcast look, an unsteady gait, or silence in a general conversation? Or maybe an image of a person appears before your eyes, letting everyone skip the line ... to the cashier ... to the Wedding Palace ... to a higher position? Modestly standing on the sidelines while others "share the pie"? And what does it mean that the complex was from childhood and where does it go for other grown-up children?
Let's think about what these people have in common? What exactly do they do to preserve and nurture their complex? In all three cases, they compare themselves with other people (usually those who are more successful, stronger, richer, etc.), and then experience their “inferiority”, i.e. unlike them, falling into despondency, apathy and hopelessness. The chronic habit of comparing yourself to others not in your favor or inventing an “ideal” that you can’t reach is the surest way to a super unpleasant pastime.
Often, parents take an active part in the formation of such a pathological habit. They know and can do so much... And if they constantly remind the child what he (due to age, of course...) does not know and cannot do, and even compare him with more successful peers, the laying of the first stone in the foundation of the inferiority complex has already taken place. Excessive guardianship and parental rejection (unwanted children) can also lead to this.
According to Adler, the main source of the inferiority complex is childhood. This is submission to parents, dependence on them, evaluation of the child's actions. But the relationship between the children themselves is completely non-idyllic. Many dramatic stories have their source in children's nicknames - “Fat”, “Rat”, “Homeless” ... And until the child has matured, he feels inferior. The feeling of inferiority is aggravated with the entry into each new age stage, with the defeat in the struggle for leadership or prestige. Especially often teenagers suffer from this, entering into life, where it is necessary to show intelligence, strength, awareness, independence ...
However, the same inferiority complex can serve as an impulse to action. Let us recall the textbook example of the orator Demosthenes. After all, he managed to overcome both the defect and the complex! People whose inferiority complex is an incentive to overcome difficulties and improve themselves achieve remarkable results. The path of many well-known psychotherapists and psychologists to their outstanding discoveries often began with overcoming an inferiority complex in the field of human relations.
An inferiority complex is formed when a person is convinced that he does not meet generally accepted standards and norms in any way. A person feels his own uselessness and inadequacy, comparing himself with low-quality goods soon to be thrown into the landfill.
The feeling of inferiority arises in some in a difficult life period, when the problem cannot be dealt with for a long time. Others feel inferior all the time. It is not a rational belief in the superiority of others that does not allow you to live fully, but the question “how to get rid of complexes?” does not go out of my head. Complex person. What is the essence of the inferiority complex and how to get rid of it?
An inferiority complex is the first cause of neuroses. Get rid of the ballast and live fully!
The causes of the inferiority complex lie in childhood. The sensation arises if a person has physiology deficiencies since childhood. A notorious member of society is raised by the parents themselves, which does not allow the child to learn to act and live independently. But the lack of parental attention is fraught with the development of the complex.
One negative situation can sow the seed of an inferiority complex, and a dysfunctional family life, lack of luck, constant criticism and negative suggestions from others will develop this feeling to the maximum.
A notorious person behaves defiantly, draws attention to his own person and does not adapt well in society. A person with an inferiority complex is afraid of making a mistake and often because of speech problems. It is worth noting that it is more difficult to notice signs of an inferiority complex in men than in women. This is due to the presence in their lives of the attributes of success and respectability - expensive cars, highly paid positions, expensive suits.
Complexity acts like a splinter. So that the unpleasant sensations from the “splinter” do not interfere with life, a person puts on a social mask. The superficial image is shown to others, but in fact the person's personality is diametrically opposed.
An inferiority complex is generated by fears and. A person worries that his superficial image will not withstand the onslaught of the world around him and he will face his own insecurities face to face. False social masks protect people from their own worthlessness and uselessness. In advanced cases of an inferiority complex, a person shows all the signs of megalomania, and sometimes -.
In fact, a person with an inferiority complex wholeheartedly dreams that there are those people who will accept him along with all the features and "cockroaches". He himself wants to accept himself with all the shortcomings in order to stop self-flagellation. A notorious person expects praise and approval from others.
Dissolved in a sense of his own inferiority, a person will be what is called a loser. He relishes the unfulfillment and buries himself in it. Notorious regardless of status and financial situation.
Dig into the memories and determine at what point the development of the complex began. Find in your memory the situation that traumatized you and analyze it. Answer: what emotions did you experience then? What did you think about after an unpleasant situation? How much did the situation affect your feelings and thoughts? How long did you worry about the incident? The complex has been developing since childhood. Now that you're an adult, it's time to reevaluate. Write the negative beliefs you go through life with in a column on a piece of paper. On the contrary, indicate a new positive interpretation of the negative quality. Suppose that the negative belief that became the basis of the complex is a lack of appearance ( a long nose, big ears, scar, etc.). Indicate on the other side of the sheet how this is compensated (beautiful smile, expressive look, slim figure etc.). Destroy the negative part of the sheet, and read the second part daily until the positive beliefs become normal for you.
The internal dialogue should take place on a positive note. If there are in your head, instantly change them to positive or at least neutral. Think of your own character appearance and behavior only from a positive point of view. It is impossible to abstract from the complex without changing the way of thinking.
All people have strong and weak character traits. Analyze yourself. Knowing your own strengths will help you respond more calmly to the criticisms of others. Keep in mind that there should be more positive qualities than negative sides. If you have any difficulties, ask friends and family for help.
Ignoring the shortcomings will not lead to anything positive. Weak sides character needs to be known and accepted, but it is not necessary to experience an inferiority complex in this regard. Everyone has unpleasant traits, but only by recognizing them, you can overcome the negative sides.
Whenever an inferiority complex gets the better of a situation, remember to positive qualities. Consciously shift your attention to the dignity of your own personality. Act persistently and soon you will notice that self-esteem has increased and the complex is defeated.
Criticism is a subjective judgment of other people and nothing more. There may be some fairness in a critical statement that is worth listening to, but do not forget that the opinions of others are not the ultimate truth.
The reason for the inferiority complex is not in the statements of others, but in your own thoughts on this matter.
Cheerful and positive people inspire others to be optimistic. Communication with them supports in difficult moments and gives inspiration for new achievements and the development of one's own life.
Insecure people avoid communication with others. They are reserved and closed. Face fear in the face and don't make up excuses to avoid communication. By following this advice, you will notice that people are quite positive about you and do not criticize you.
Engage in physical, intellectual and spiritual development continuously. Learn new things on your own, read books, attend courses and trainings. Developing, and your self-esteem will increase.
A role model can be a person from the immediate environment, the hero of a book or film, a celebrity. Analyze the traits of his character that attract you. Periodically take on this role and gradually you will notice that the idol's virtues will eventually become yours.
Positive books with a positive plot will set you on an optimistic wave. After good literature, thoughts are painted in iridescent hues. Inspired by the books of Anthony Robbins, Anatoly Nekrasov and other authors.
Write down the events of the day, your own achievements and positive moments in or blog. Set aside at least 10 minutes a day for this.
Change your own thinking and outlook on life. You will not get rid of feelings of inferiority, complexes and negative thoughts if you do not make an effort to do so.