Days of remembrance of the dead in March. Parent Saturday: what not to do

The first parent memorial Saturday of 2017 is determined by the date of February 18th. On this day, the church charter provides for the celebration of worship ecumenical meat-fare Saturday. The name of this memorial day indicates the time of commemoration - the last Saturday before the holy Great Lent, on which the use of food of animal origin is allowed. After the meat-fare week, the cheese week begins, and then the believers enter the holy Forty Day.

During Great Lent in 2017, the dead are commemorated three times. The Charter assigns for this purpose the Sabbaths of the middle of Lent (in particular, the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th). The strictest Orthodox fast implies a prayer not only for the personal salvation of the soul, but also the commemoration of dead people. Parental Saturdays that fall on Fortecost, 2017 falls on March 11th, 18th and 25th respectively.

One of the most famous memorial days in is considered Trinity parental Saturday. On this day in Orthodox churches a commemoration of all Orthodox Christians who have died from the century is performed, and the cemeteries are full of people as never before. In 2017, Trinity parental Saturday falls on June 3rd (the very next day on Sunday the Church celebrates in honor of the feast of the Holy Life-Giving Trinity).

In the fall of 2017, a service is performed Dimitriev parental Saturday. This memorial day falls on the last Saturday before the celebration of the great Christian martyr Demetrius, called Thessalonica. In 2017, Dimitrievskaya Saturday is determined by the calendar for November 4th.

Special mention should be made of other important parenting days 2017 that do not fall on Saturdays. First of all, this is the commemoration of the dead in the post-Easter period. April 25, the ninth day after Easter in 2017, is celebrated Radonitsa- the time when, after Easter joy, Orthodox people prayerfully commemorate the dead (always falls on Tuesday).

Another memorial date is May 9th. The date itself indicates the prayerful commemoration of the soldiers and the special honor given to the heroes - participants in the Great Patriotic War. The Gospel clearly says that the highest feat of love is the sacrificial slaughter of one's life for the sake of one's neighbor.

The Russian state has determined another significant day for the commemoration of the soldiers, which has become part of church liturgical practice. February 15th warriors are remembered. This day in 1989 was marked by the withdrawal of Russian troops from Afghanistan. The Orthodox Church in Russia holds special memorial services on February 15th in memory of the deceased. Despite the fact that this day of the calendar is marked by the great twelfth feast of the Presentation of the Lord, in many Orthodox parishes, at the end of the liturgy, requiems are performed, where special petitions are inserted on the funeral litanies for the dead internationalist soldiers.

Parental Saturdays are the time at which liturgies are served in all churches and temples, commemorating the departed. For such holidays, the Orthodox write notes with the names of their deceased relatives, so that the priests would mention them during the service.

Also on these days it is customary to visit cemeteries to pay tribute to the memory of their loved ones.
In addition to the usual ones, there are also Universal Parental Saturdays. At this time, all the dead are commemorated, including the missing, not buried properly, as well as the saints who died for the Orthodox faith.

Parental Saturdays in 2017

February 18 - Ecumenical meat-and-fat parental Saturday. It is so named because of the ban on the use of meat products. The holiday begins 7 days before the start of Lent before Easter. The people called Saturday the Small Maslenitsa, because it takes place a week before Maslenitsa. On this day, all Orthodox believers serve a memorial service for all the dead since the creation of the world. According to tradition, a special dish is prepared - kutya. It is a porridge with nuts, candied fruits or dried fruits, smeared with honey. The special meaning of this dish is that the grain, in order to give bread, must first decay, and then be reborn. Similarly, the human body must be interred in the earth so that the immortal soul can continue its journey in the Kingdom of Heaven. On this day, they visit the church, illuminate the kutya, and going to the cemetery is undesirable. In a temple or at home, it is worth praying for all the dead to help them ascend to the Lord:
"Lord Jesus! Your servants pray to you for the repose of all those who have died now and who live in the Kingdom of Heaven. Rest the souls of the unburied, and grant them eternal rest under Your gaze. From the beginning of the created world to this day. We pray for everyone, for everyone who has died on earth and in water, in air and fire. Amen".
March 11th- parental Saturday of the second week (or second week) of Great Lent.
March 18- parental Saturday of the third week (or third week) of Great Lent.
March, 25- Parental Saturday of the fourth week (or week) of Lent. During Lent, the Orthodox continue to pray for the souls of their dead relatives, visit the cemetery, where they also ask the Lord to have mercy on all the dead. During Lent, if parental Saturdays do not fall on significant church holidays, services are short. The Church has established 3 days of prayer, corresponding to each parental Saturday. Orthodox carry notes with the names of everyone they want to remember, and also bring food to the canon. This ancient tradition commemoration of the dead through the proposed treat. 25th of April- Radonitsa. The name comes from the word "rejoice", because Holy holiday Easter continues. This day falls on a Tuesday, and after a memorial service and Easter hymns, Orthodox Christians visit the graves of their deceased relatives to commemorate the memory and pray for their souls:
“Our Lord Almighty. We believe in You and hope for the Kingdom of Heaven. Take to yourself the souls of our relatives (names), and guide us on the true path, and deliver us from the evil one, unclean thoughts, malice and grief inappropriate. Let us rejoice together, so that the souls of our loved ones ascend to You. Amen".
9th May there is a commemoration of all the deceased warriors. This great day is celebrated all over the country. Celebrating the main holiday of the Victory in the Great Patriotic War, all Orthodox Christians pray for the souls of the defenders who fell in battle. The liturgy also mentions all military personnel who gave their lives for the human race, for its prosperity and well-being.
June 3- Trinity parental Saturday. It is celebrated on the eve of the fast, just like the meat-packing one. On this day, a memorial service (night vigil) takes place, where they pray for the souls of all the departed Orthodox Christians since the creation of the world. The great martyrs are mentioned, who accepted death from unbelievers, without departing from their faith in Jesus Christ. This day also precedes the feast of the Trinity, or, as it is also called, Pentecost.
28 of October- Dmitrievskaya parental Saturday. The holiday is named in honor of Demetrius of Thessalonica, the holy great martyr. This day was originally reserved for the commemoration of the deceased soldiers who fought at the Battle of Kulikovo. Now Dmitrievskaya parental Saturday is the day of commemoration of all the dead Orthodox Christians.
Each Orthodox Christian sacredly honors church holidays and spends time in prayers. They open the soul to the Lord, purify the mind and help to embark on the righteous path. Words that come from the heart always resonate in Heaven, so the place for prayer words does not play a huge role. You can also pray at home in front of holy images, by candlelight, or simply at a moment of weakness and doubt.

Parental Saturdays in 2019 are days of special remembrance for the departed. At this time, a special commemoration of deceased Christians is performed in Orthodox churches, and believers visit the graves of their relatives who have left this world in cemeteries. parent Saturdays in church calendar over the course of seven years.

Special days of commemoration of the dead began to be called parental Saturdays because, first of all, they remembered their deceased parents, and then other deceased relatives and other close people. According to another version, the name was formed because it was once customary to call the deceased parents, that is, "departed to their fathers."

Universal Parent Saturdays

If we are talking about the universal parental Saturday, it is understood that all baptized Christians are commemorated. Seven days before the beginning of Great Lent, the Meat-Passing Ecumenical Saturday is celebrated. Meat Saturday is called because it falls on the week of the same name, which is also called the Small Maslenitsa. This is the first parental Saturday in March.

On the eve of the feast of Pentecost, the Trinity Ecumenical Saturday is celebrated. On Trinity Saturday, all baptized Christians are also remembered in prayers. On these days, special ecumenical requiems are performed. They serve a memorial service "The memory of all the departed Orthodox Christians from the age, our father and brethren."

Five Other Parent Saturdays

Radonitsa or Radunitsa falls on Tuesday after St. Thomas' week, that is, the second week after Christ's Bright Resurrection. main topic this day is the victory of the risen Christ over death. On this day, according to tradition, believers visit the cemetery and glorify the resurrected Son of God at the graves of deceased relatives.

On May 9, on the day of victory in the Great Patriotic War, a memorial service is served in churches for the many soldiers who gave their lives for the salvation of the Motherland. Many families have lost someone close in this terrible and long war. Therefore, this day is commemorated as everyone dead soldiers, thanks to the feat of which the a great victory, and their loved ones who died during the war.

Dimitri's parental Saturday is also associated with hostilities that only took place several centuries earlier. We are talking about the Battle of Kulikovo in 1380. Initially, soldiers who died during a large-scale battle were commemorated on this day.

Later this day was transformed into the day of commemoration of all the dead, which is indicated in the Novgorod chronicle of the 15th century. It is known that in 1903, Emperor Nicholas II issued a decree ordering a memorial service in memory of the soldiers who died for the Motherland "For faith, the tsar and the Fatherland, who laid their lives on the battlefield."

In 2019, Orthodox parental Saturdays are celebrated in the following order:

• March 16 - Saturday meat-fare
• March 23 - Saturday of the 2nd week of Great Lent
• March 30 - Saturday of the 3rd week of Great Lent
• April 6 - Saturday of the 4th week of Great Lent
• May 7, Tuesday - Radonitsa, church-wide commemoration of the dead
• May 9 - Commemoration of the deceased soldiers
• May 26 - Saturday Trinity
• November 3 - Saturday Dimitrievskaya

Features of parental Saturdays

On the days of ecumenical parental Saturdays, memorial services are performed, funeral services, during which believers read prayers for their deceased relatives, asking God for forgiveness of sins for them. According to the charter, during the parental Saturdays of the second, third and fourth during Great Lent, they do not perform funeral commemorations, that is: funeral litanies, litias, memorial services, commemoration of the 3rd, 9th and 40th day after death, magpies. These days are specially set aside so that believers can pay tribute to the memory of loved ones.

On the Friday evening on the eve of parental Saturday, a great memorial service (parastas) is served in the temples. to the funeral Divine Liturgy you can send notes with the names of your deceased relatives. On this day, according to ancient tradition, it is customary to bring lenten products and Cahors to the temple for the celebration of the liturgy. Wine and fasting products brought to the temple on Friday are called brought "on the eve."

In the old days, it was customary for believing parishioners to bring meatless dishes for a common table in the temple, where it was possible to commemorate the dead relatives dear to the heart. This tradition has been preserved, only on a smaller scale.

Lenten products and Cahors are left on a special table in the temple. This food is used for the needs of the temple and for the transfer to poor people who are under the care of one parish or another.

Often, believers are faced with a choice - to visit the grave of a relative on parental Saturday or to come to the temple for a service. The clergy are more inclined to believe that sincere prayer is much more important for the souls of your loved ones, which can be performed during a special service. Therefore, it is recommended to give preference to visiting the temple.

You can read a prayer for the departed: “God rest the souls of your departed servants: my parents, relatives, benefactors (their names) and all Orthodox Christians, and forgive them all sins, voluntary and involuntary, and grant them the Kingdom of Heaven.”

How to celebrate Memorial Day

Before you go to the temple, write down on a piece of paper the names of all the deceased relatives and other close people whom you would like to mention while reading the prayer. Earlier in Christian families there was a very important tradition - from generation to generation to write down the names of all deceased relatives. This is how family memorials were formed, which were used during the reading of prayers for the dead.

In the days special commemoration the departed, it is very important to think about what death is, perhaps rethink own life and relationships with loved ones, try to reconcile in all contentious issues.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh speaks very accurately and succinctly about the issue of the relationship between life and death. For fifteen years he worked as a military doctor, and after forty-six years he was a priest. Here is one of his quotes: “Russians believe in life, go into life. And this is one of the things that every priest and every person should repeat to himself and to others: we must not prepare for death, we must prepare for eternal life.

Children's prayer for deceased parents

Lord Jesus Christ our God! You are the guardian of the orphans, the grieving refuge and the weeping comforter. I am running to you, orphan, groaning and crying, and I pray to You: hear my prayer and do not turn Your face away from the sighing of my heart and from the tears of my eyes. I pray to You, merciful Lord, quench my grief about separation from my parent who gave birth and raised (who gave birth and raised) me (my mother), (name) (or: with my parents who gave birth and raised me, their names) - his soul ( or: her, or: theirs), as if departed (or: departed) to Thee with true faith in Thee and with firm hope in Thy philanthropy and mercy, receive into Thy Kingdom of Heaven. I bow before Your holy will, it has already been taken away (or: taken away, or: taken away) be from me, and I ask You not to take away from him (or: from her, or: from them) Your mercy and mercy. We know, Lord, as You are the Judge of this world, punish the sins and wickedness of the fathers in children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren, even up to the third and fourth kind: but also have mercy on the fathers for the prayers and virtues of their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. With contrition and tenderness of the heart, I pray to Thee, merciful Judge, do not punish with eternal punishment the deceased unforgettable (departed unforgettable) for me Your servant (Your servant), my parent (my mother) (name), but release him (her) all his sins ( her) free and involuntary, in word and deed, by knowledge and ignorance created by him (her) in his (her) life here on earth, and according to Your mercy and philanthropy, prayers for the sake of the Most Pure Mother of God and all the saints, have mercy on him (s) and eternal spare the pain. You, merciful Father of fathers and children! Grant me, all the days of my life, until my last breath, do not stop remembering my deceased parent (my deceased mother) in your prayers, and beg Thee, the righteous Judge, and put him (s) in a bright place, in a cool place and in a place of peace, with all the saints, all sickness, sorrow and sighing will flee from here. Gracious Lord! Receive this day about Your servant (Your) (name) this warm prayer of mine and give him (her) Your recompense for the labors and cares of my upbringing in faith and Christian piety, as if he taught (taught) me first of all lead Thee, your Lord, in reverently pray to You, trust in You alone in troubles, sorrows and illnesses and keep Your commandments; for his (her) care for my spiritual success, for the warmth of the prayers he (she) brings about me before You and for all the gifts he (she) asked me from You, reward him (her) with Your mercy. With your heavenly blessings and joys in your eternal kingdom. You are the God of mercies and generosity and philanthropy, You are the peace and joy of Your faithful servants, and we send glory to You with the Father and the Holy Spirit, now and ever and forever and ever. Amen.

P.S. Death is an inevitability that each of us will face at one time or another. And from right attitude the position of a person both in earthly life and after death depends on this question. Metropolitan Anthony recalls that it is very important not to commit such a common sin as indifferent or with ostentatious care, insincere attitude towards a dying relative.

On the days of commemoration of the dead, you will mentally play these moments again and again: when you could spend a few more minutes with a loved one, and not refer to employment and daily important things, you could give him more heartfelt warmth, but did not.

These days are important both for the dead, whom living relatives can help with their sincere prayers, and for the living themselves, who, preserving the memory of the family, can grow spiritually and take care not only of earthly, but also of eternal life.

Throughout the year, funeral services and magpies are served in churches. People who have lost their parents, through these prayers, touch the souls of relatives and friends. The memory of parents is the duty of every child and person, and everyone should do it properly.

Many people shy away from churches and temples, considering them to be a special market where faith is traded and false ideals are planted. Worldview and religion is a personal matter of every person who is a person. God does not force you to believe in yourself, he shows a person his miracles throughout life.

Memorial Saturdays in 2017 Orthodox: dates

Memorial Saturdays in 2017 Orthodox: where did the term "Parental Saturday" come from

According to the canons of the church, it is believed that all people are descended from Adam and Eve. Further, humanity dispersed to all ends of the Earth and already passed on blood kinship. with base christian church the need to pray for the souls of deceased relatives was realized in order to To pray for their earthly sins and to pay tribute.

Saturday is the end of the seismic cycle and summing up the past week. During this period, it is important to remember the achievements. Set new goals and analyze mistakes. Arriving at the temple, you can get detailed advice on all issues of interest, talk with a spiritual mentor. Confess.

In the event that a parishioner is a churched person, that is, he tries to maintain fasts, he comes to all services and communions. It will not be a secret for him that there are many “parental” Saturdays a year and a prayer service can be ordered to the ministers of a church or monastery, for this you need to write the names of the departed parents, grandparents and, if possible, on a piece of paper. Recall your family tree.

You can also take the psalter and ask the Lord for a favorable attitude towards parents for the forgiveness of their sins.

Memorial Saturdays in 2017 Orthodox: the difference between the "parental" and "universal" memorial Saturday

One often hears the term "universal" Sabbath being used colloquially in relation to each Sabbath day. This is wrong, here's why: there are only two ecumenical memorial days in a year. During this period, you need to pray for the souls of your relatives and Christians in general, while you should not set limits and think only about blood and acquaintances. This covers everyone. On the eighteenth of February, in the temple, you need to put up a battle for the repose of all the dead and stand until the end of the service. The second is Trinity.

To properly take the sacrament. Needed the day before. At least a week do not eat products of animal origin. Do not swear and provoke scandals. After communion and a prayer service for the dead, it is not gentle to eat seeds and fruits. From which the bones are spit out.

In addition, the holy fathers warn against people not interweaving pagan values ​​into their understanding of religious canons, they say that God is one in many guises, he is love, and you need to adhere to some one rites. In order not to be confused by yourself and not to mislead others.

Days of Special Remembrance for the Dead in 2017 according to the canons of the Orthodox Church, they are shifted relative to Easter. The exception is one day, typical only for Russia.

The days when the Church especially remembers the dead are traditionally called in Russia parent Saturdays. Saturday is considered a day of rest, so we pray for the repose of our loved ones and all Orthodox Christians who have died from time immemorial with the saints. Parental Saturdays are named because we most often commemorate our dead parents and direct ancestors. Almost all the days of remembrance were determined in the church calendar back in the days of the first Christians.

THE UNIVERSAL PARENTAL SATURDAY (MEAT SATURDAY) in 2017 falls on 18th of Febuary. The basis for the establishment of the Ecumenical commemoration on this day was the fact that on the following Sunday, Last Judgment and the Second Coming of Christ. In addition, during the preparation for Great Lent on this day, Christians are called to love all the dead and remember that we are with them in the one Body of Christ.

2nd, 3rd, 4th SATURDAYS OF GREAT LENT, fall in 2017, respectively, on March 11, March 18 and March, 25.

In addition to the ecumenical commemoration of the dead, performed on some parent Saturdays, the Church performs ecumenical memorial services on Saturdays of the 2nd, 3rd and 4th weeks of Great Lent. These days, the Church prays for Christians to forgive "voluntary and involuntary sins... and their eternal repose with the Saints."

Radonitsa occupies a special place in the annual circle church holidays, this day is immediately after bright week, which calls on Christians not to suffer over the death of loved ones, but to rejoice at their birth into eternal life.

On this day, the same funeral service is performed, as on the Ecumenical Parental Saturday. These days of remembrance are brought closer by the fact that they are placed in the church circle a week before Lent. Trinity parental Saturday precedes the Apostolic or Petrovsky fast.

DIMITRIEVSKAYA SATURDAY in 2017 falls on November 4 and coincides this year with the feast in the name of the Kazan Icon of the Mother of God.

Demetrius Saturday was established by Dmitry Donskoy after the Battle of Kulikovo, on this day the Church historically remembers all Orthodox soldiers.

AT last years another day of commemoration of warriors became widespread - 9th May, in memory of those who suffered in the dashing years of the Great Patriotic War. This day is not approved by the Church, the tradition is only being formed.

Eastern Christians have a tradition of arranging another Memorial Saturday- before the day of the Intercession. In 2017, it accounts for October 7th.

All dates are given in the new style.

On all days, you can carry out the commemoration of the baptized in Orthodox Church deceased at the Liturgy. For this, special notes are submitted in advance, colloquially called "Dinner of Repose."

Repose can be ordered in monasteries Indestructible Psalter which has long been considered a great alms for the departed soul.

There is also a custom to order funeral services, which can be served not only in temples, but also in cemeteries.

There is another kind of commemoration mortuary lithium, may be performed by a layman in a cemetery or at home.

There is an ancient tradition consecration of kutia- a special memorial meal, which, after consecration, is eaten at home with prayer.

In addition, among Orthodox Christians, the commemoration of the dead is widespread with the help of filing alms. Particularly in this series is the supply "on canon", that is, the offering by the laity to the temple of food for the meal of the clergy, the distribution of food to those who work in the temple and those in need.