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wedding - an important event in the life of every Christian family. It is rare that couples get married on their wedding day (in order to "kill two birds with one stone") - in most cases, couples still approach this issue deliberately, realizing the importance of this ceremony and experiencing a sincere and mutual desire to become a full-fledged, according to church canons, family .
How does this ceremony take place, and what do you need to know about it?
A wedding is not a wedding, where they walk for 3 days, fall on their faces in a salad and beat them to each other according to tradition. A wedding is a sacrament through which a couple receives a blessing from the Lord in order to live together in sorrow and joy all their lives, be faithful to each other “to the grave”, give birth and raise children.
Without a wedding, marriage is considered “inferior” by the Church. And, of course, it must be appropriate. And this is not about organizational issues that are resolved in 1 day, but about spiritual preparation.
A couple who takes their wedding seriously will definitely take into account the requirements that some newlyweds forget about in pursuit of fashionable wedding photos. But spiritual preparation is an important part of the wedding, as the beginning of a new life for a couple - from a clean (in every sense) slate.
The preparation includes a 3-day fast, during which you need to prepare for the ceremony prayerfully, as well as refrain from intimate relationships, animal food, bad thoughts, etc. In the morning before the wedding, the husband and wife confess and take communion together.
Betrothal is a kind of "introductory" part of the sacrament that precedes the wedding. It symbolizes the consummation of a church marriage in the presence of the Lord and the strengthening of the mutual promises of a man and a woman.
The second part of the sacrament of marriage begins with the exit of the bride and groom to the middle of the temple with candles in their hands, as with the spiritual light of the sacrament. In front of them is a priest with a censer, which symbolizes the importance of following the path of the commandments and offering their good deeds as incense to the Lord.
The choir greets the couple with the singing of Psalm 127.
Candles after the wedding are kept in the icon case, at home. And after the death of the last spouse, these candles (according to the Russian old custom) are placed in the coffin for him, both.
Witnesses must be believers and baptized - a friend of the groom and a girlfriend of the bride, who after the wedding will become the spiritual mentors of this couple and its prayer guardians.
However, if the witnesses do not know their duties, this is not a problem. The priest will tell the guarantors about them, preferably in advance, so that there are no “overlays” during the wedding.
It is important to remember that a church marriage cannot be dissolved - the Church does not give divorces. The exception is the death of a spouse or his loss of reason.
A wedding, as mentioned above, is not a wedding. And the Church warns against the possible obscene and irreverent behavior of all those present at the wedding after the sacrament.
Decent Christians dine modestly after the wedding, and do not dance in restaurants. Moreover, at a modest marriage feast there should not be any indecency and intemperance.
For many couples, it is even more important than painting. This is church sacrament contains a lot of symbolism, and quite naturally, the bride and groom may have questions: why do we need church candles? why do they keep crowns over their heads? why take the handbrake? Today we will try to cover these topics.
During the wedding, the bride and groom hold lighted candles in their hands as a symbol of the purest motives for marriage. Usually spouses keep wedding candles at home all their lives.
Previously, the betrothal (exchange of rings) and the actual wedding were performed separately, but today it is customary to perform the wedding immediately after the betrothal ceremony. Interestingly, in Ancient Russia they were betrothed with rings, because they meant “seal and approval”, there was a time when they were betrothed with crosses.
Today they get engaged with rings. The wedding ring has round shape- a sign of eternity and inseparability of the marital union. Before the betrothal, the rings are kept on the throne in the altar of the temple. Thus, the future husband and wife show that they entrust their fate to God.
After the betrothal, the bride and groom stand on a handbrake or an embroidered towel, as if pledging to always and in everything share the same fate, both sweet and bitter.
At the most solemn moment of the wedding, crowns are placed on the heads of the bride and groom as a sign of royal power, that is, the newlyweds become ancestors, "princes of the house." No wonder the bride and groom used to be called prince and princess. Crowns are made of metal (in Greece and Rome, crowns could be woven from flowers and plants, and in Russia crowns were made exclusively from silver and gold) and, as a rule, are decorated precious stones. Today, crowns are usually held over the heads of newlyweds by witnesses.
There are two more bright and touching symbolic moments in an Orthodox wedding. Soon after the laying of the crowns, the bride and groom each drink from a cup of red wine three times, promising each other that from now on they will have everything in common: common desires, common joys, common troubles, common work and common peace.
Then the priest joins the hands of the newlyweds and circles them three times around the center of the temple, where the lectern with the icon stands, as a sign that they will not violate these vows and will not dissolve the marriage. After all, it is not for nothing that they say that marriages are made in heaven ...
One of the seven Sacraments of the Orthodox Church is the Wedding, in which a blessing is given for marriage and the birth of children. And those entering into marriage make a promise before God in front of witnesses to observe marital fidelity, to be together in joy and in sorrow.
In this Sacrament, people not only make a promise and are responsible before God, but also receive grace-filled help for the rest of their married life.
Wedding in the church is permissible after registration of marriage in the registry office
The rite itself takes not so long time and consists of the following points:
After that, the crowns are removed, and the priest reads the closing prayers. Now married people are full-fledged husband and wife.
Marriage crowns worn at the wedding on the heads of the bride and groom have a deeply symbolic meaning:
Wedding crowns were not immediately accepted in the Church. In the first centuries of the existence of Christianity, members of the Christian community who entered into marriage communed together from the same cup on this day. However, for marriage ceremonies, wreaths have been used since ancient times and in almost all cultures. Therefore, it was considered an extra rite, which has much in common with paganism. But since the 4th century, when Christianity actually received the status of the state religion, the crowns have become an indispensable attribute wedding ceremony.
Interesting fact! The form of this marriage property in Russia changed over time: in the 16th century. these were ordinary hoops, like diadems, made of iron, silver, and even popular print. Since the 17th century they began to use crowns similar to the crowns of Western European monarchs, but a little later they acquired the form that they have now.
Currently, the wedding headdress is a hoop-crown made of metal, crowned with a cross, four icons on the sides, in the forehead of the groom, this is the image of Jesus Christ, the bride of the Mother of God.
According to the rules of the Church, the crowns are exactly worn on the heads of the bride and groom, but it is allowed that they can be kept during the entire ceremony, following the spouses. Who can wear crowns at a wedding? This honor is awarded to witnesses or, as they were called before, the bride and groom's friends.
The sacrament of the wedding can be called the most reverent and exciting moment in the life of the newlyweds. But at the same time, it is an incredibly responsible step that requires careful step-by-step preparation.
Preparing for the wedding Orthodox Church should begin with the choice of the temple. A few weeks before the desired day, you must finally decide on the place. Each church has its own rules. Therefore, such moments as the arrangement of guests, the duration of the wedding, the presence of a choir can vary significantly. Please note that the possibility of photography is also agreed in advance, and the cost of the wedding may be different in each temple.
Newlyweds are encouraged to set a wedding date as early as possible. Take this seriously, because church rules not all calendar dates can hold a ceremony. Restrictions apply to the following days: Shrovetide and Easter weeks, Thursday, Tuesday and Saturday, during the fasting period, as well as certain church holidays. You can see a list of all dates in church calendar Or check with the church itself. The wedding day must be agreed in advance with the priest.
Also take note that the wedding ceremony does not have to take place right after the wedding in the registry office. There are no time limits here, so the newlyweds can get married even 5 years after the official marriage.
You may not be limited to the choice of priests offered by the temple in which you decide to hold the ceremony. Newlyweds are allowed to use the services of their own priest. The main thing is that the rite is performed by a clergyman without a monastic vow.
In order for the preparation for the wedding to be successful, discuss with the priest in advance all the questions of interest regarding the ceremony. You may need to read special prayers before the ceremony, attend a service, or take communion.
While preparing for the wedding, the newlyweds should acquire a set of things that will be needed during the ceremony:
You can purchase each item separately, or buy the entire set in advance at the church shop.
Unlike a wedding banquet, where the newlyweds can choose stylized outfits and show their imagination, for the wedding ceremony there are certain rules regarding appearance couples. Originally ancient traditions have been preserved here: the groom dressed in a classic dark suit and the future wife in a snow-white dress.
The future wife should not be in the temple with bare shoulders, neckline and uncovered head. The abundance of jewelry is also considered inappropriate. To cover your head, you can wear a veil or a scarf. If your dress is too revealing not to change once again, you can simply prepare a cape for the ceremony. Makeup should be natural and discreet. Refrain from high heels. Better pick up comfortable shoes because the wedding can last several hours. And don't forget your wedding rings, be sure to bring them with you.
For the ceremony to be successful, you should not only carry out the main stages of preparation for the ceremony, but also familiarize yourself with the wedding rules that the newlyweds will need during the event itself.