Correct life values. Why you need to know your main values in life

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What is the sense of life? How to live a fulfilling and happy life? What is truly valuable in life? Am I living right? These are the main questions that we are all trying to find answers to ... In this article I offer you a new opportunity to reconsider your life priorities and find answers to these "eternal" questions.

When I became seriously interested in this topic and began to search, I discovered that the best answers to these questions are given to us by people who in their lives have come face to face with their death.

I studied best-selling books about people who found out that they were going to die very soon and changed their life priorities; collected various studies on the topic of “what is regretted before death”; added a little Eastern philosophy and the result was this list of five true values in the life of every person.

If not for my illness, I would never have thought about how wonderful life is.

1. Identity

Everything in life has a purpose. Every living creature on the planet has its own mission. And each of us has a role to play. By realizing our unique talents and abilities, we find happiness and wealth. The path to our uniqueness and mission lies through our desires and dreams since childhood.

Individuality is the highest value in the world.
Osho.

One woman (Bronnie Vee) worked for many years in a hospice, where her task was to alleviate the mental state of dying patients. From her observations, she revealed that the most common regret in people before death is regret that they did not have the courage to live the life that was right for them, and not the life that others expected of them. Her patients regretted that they had never realized many of their dreams. And only at the end of the path did they realize that this was only a consequence of their choice, which they made.

Make a list of your talents and abilities, as well as a list of favorite things in which they are expressed. This is how you will find your unique talents. Use them to serve others. To do this, ask yourself as often as possible: "How can I be useful (to the world, to the people with whom I come into contact)? How can I serve?"

Feel free to quit your unloved job! Do not be afraid of poverty, failure and mistakes! Trust yourself and don't worry about the opinions of others. Always believe that God will take care of you. It is better to take a risk once than to regret later that you have lived a gray and mediocre life, "killing yourself" at the same time at an unloved job to the detriment of yourself and your loved ones.

Always remember that you are unique and your mission is to maximize your uniqueness to the world. Only then will you find true happiness. This is what God intended.

Discover your divinity, find your unique talent, and you can create any wealth you want.
Deepak Chopra

2. Self-revelation and spiritual growth

Stop being an animal! .. Of course, we need to satisfy physiological needs, but only in order to develop spiritually. People mainly chase after material well-being and are concerned, first of all, with things, and not with the soul. Then, as the primary meaning and purpose of human life is to realize that he is a spiritual being and, in fact, does not need anything material.

We are not human beings with spiritual experiences from time to time. We are spiritual beings who have human experiences from time to time.
Deepak Chopra

Realize God within yourself. Man is a transitional being from an animal to a spiritual one. And each of us has the resources to make this transition. Practice the state of “Being” more often, when you have no thoughts and you do not need anything, when you just feel life and enjoy its fullness. The state of "here and now" is already a spiritual experience.

There are people among us, not many, but there are those who understand that it is necessary to start saving money for old age while it is still far away, so that a certain amount can be accumulated ... So why not take care of what is more important than money, about soul?
Eugene O'Kelly, Chasing the Escaping Light

And there is no need to improve yourself, you are already perfect, because you are spiritual beings. Engage in self-disclosure.

To know oneself as best as possible in order to be as big as possible for the world is the most important task of a person.
Robin Sharma

Even when you achieve goals, true success is not associated with achievement, but with those changes in consciousness that have occurred as an inevitable consequence of your progress towards these goals. It's not about the realization of goals, but about what happens to you in the process of achieving it.

3. Openness

How often, in the face of death, people regret not having the courage to express love to their loved ones! They regret that they often suppressed their emotions and feelings because they were afraid of the reactions of others. They regret not allowing themselves to be happier. Only at the end of the journey did they realize that being happy or not is a matter of choice.

Every moment we choose a reaction to a particular situation, and each time interprets events in its own way. Be carefull! Keep track of your choice every moment.

What goes around comes around.
Folk wisdom

What needs to be done to become more open?

Unleash your emotions and feelings. Take a ride on the coolest attraction and shout at your pleasure; share your feelings with other people; become an optimist - rejoice, laugh, have fun, no matter what.
Accept yourself and life as it is. Allow yourself to be who you are, and events happen by themselves. Your task is to dream, move and observe what miracles life brings you. And if something does not turn out the way you wanted, then it will be even better. Just relax and have fun.

I'm dying and having fun. And I'm going to have fun every day I have.
Randy Pausch "The Last Lecture"

4. Love

Sadly, many people only in the face of death realize how little love was in their life, how little they rejoiced and enjoyed the simple joys of life. The world has presented us with so many miracles! But we're too busy. We cannot take our eyes off our plans and pressing problems in order to look at these gifts and enjoy them.

Love is food for the soul. Love for the soul is the same as food for the body. Without food, the body is weak, without love, the soul is weak.
Osho

The best way to raise a wave of love in your body is through gratitude. Start thanking God for everything that he presents to you every moment: for this food and a roof over your head; for this communication; for this clear sky; for everything you see and get. And when you find yourself annoyed, immediately ask yourself, "Why should I be grateful now?" The answer will come from the heart, and believe me, it will inspire you.

Love is the energy from which the world is woven. Become a missionary of love! Give compliments to people; charge everything you touch with love; give more than you get ... and move through life from your heart, not your head. It is it that will tell you the right way.

A path without a heart is never joyful. Already in order to reach it, you have to work hard. On the contrary, a path that has a heart is always easy; it doesn't take much effort to fall in love with it.
Carlos Castaneda

5. Relationships

When life goes by and in everyday worries we often lose sight of our family and friends, at the end of the path we will feel desolation, deep sadness and longing ...

Spend time with those you love and value as often as possible. They are the most precious thing you have. Always be open to communication and new acquaintances, it is enriching. As often as possible, give people your attention and admiration for them - all this will return to you. Help with joy and selflessness, give and just as gladly accept gifts from others.

Bliss is also contagious, like any disease. If you help others to be happy, by and large you help to be happy for yourself. .
Osho

PS: Recently I came across an interesting poll on the Internet: "What will you regret before you die?" 70% of the participants answered “When the time comes, then we'll find out ... ».

So what will you regret at the end of your journey?

Value is the significance, importance, usefulness, and benefit of something. Outwardly, it appears as one of the properties of objects or phenomena. But their usefulness and significance are inherent in them not by virtue of their internal structure, that is, they are not given by nature, they are nothing more than subjective assessments of specific properties involved in the field of public interest in them and feel the need for them. The Constitution of the Russian Federation says that the highest value is the person himself, his freedom and rights.

Use of the concept of value in various sciences

Depending on what kind of science is studying this phenomenon in society, there are several approaches to its use. So, for example, philosophy considers the concept of value as follows: it is the socio-cultural, personal significance of specific objects. In psychology, value is understood as all those objects of the society that surrounds the individual, which are of value to him. This term in this case is closely related to motivation. But in sociology, values are understood as those concepts that are called sets of goals, states, phenomena worthy of people striving for them. As you can see, in this case, there is a connection with motivation. In addition, from the point of view of these social sciences, there are the following types and spiritual. The latter are also called eternal values. They are not tangible, but sometimes they are much more important to society than all material objects put together. Of course, they have nothing to do with economics. In this science, the concept of value is considered as the value of objects. At the same time, two types of it are distinguished: consumer and the first represent one or another value for consumers, depending on the degree of usefulness of the product or its ability to satisfy human needs, and the second are valuable in that they are suitable for exchange, and the degree of their significance is determined by the ratio that is obtained with an equivalent exchange. That is, the more a person realizes his dependence on a given object, the higher its value. People living in cities are completely dependent on money, because they need it to buy the most essential goods, namely food. For rural residents, the monetary dependence is not as great as in the first case, since they can get the products necessary for life, regardless of the availability of money, for example, from their own garden.

Different definitions of values

The simplest definition of this concept is the statement that values are all those objects and phenomena that are capable of satisfying human needs. They can be material, that is, tangible, or they can be abstract, like love, happiness, etc. By the way, the set of values that are inherent in this or that person or group are called. Without it, any culture would be meaningless. And here is another definition of value: it is the objective significance of the variety of components (properties and attributes of a particular object or phenomenon) of reality, which are determined by the interests and needs of people. The main thing is that they are necessary for a person. However, value and significance are not always equivalent. After all, the first is not only positive, but also negative, but the value is always positive. That which satisfies cannot be negative, although everything is relative here too ...

Representatives of the Austrian school believe that basic values are a specific amount of goods or goods that are necessary for satisfaction. The more a person realizes his dependence on the presence of a given object, the higher its value. In short, the relationship between quantity and need is important here. According to this theory, goods that exist in unlimited quantities, for example, water, air, etc., are not particularly significant because they are non-economic. But the goods, the amount of which does not satisfy the needs, that is, there are fewer of them than necessary, are of real value. This view has both many supporters and opponents who fundamentally disagree with this opinion.

The volatility of values

This philosophical category has a social nature, since it is formed in the process of practice. In this regard, values tend to change over time. What was meaningful to this society may not be so to the next generation. And we see this from our own experience. If you look back in time, you will notice that the values of the generations of our parents and ours differ in many respects from each other.

The main types of values

As noted above, the main types of values are material (conducive to life) and spiritual. The latter give a person moral satisfaction. The main types of material values are the simplest goods (housing, food, household items, clothing, etc.) and goods of a higher order (means of production). However, both of them contribute to the life of society, as well as to improve the quality of life of its members. People need spiritual values for the formation and further development of their attitudes and perceptions of the world. They contribute to the spiritual enrichment of the individual.

The role of values in the life of society

This category, in addition to being of some importance to society, also plays a role. For example, the assimilation of various values by a person contributes to the acquisition of social experience, as a result of which he joins the culture, and this, in turn, affects the formation of his personality. Another important role of values in society is that a person strives to create new goods, while preserving the old, already existing ones. In addition, the value of thoughts, actions, various things is expressed in how important they are for the process of social development, that is, the progress of society. And on the personal level - the development and self-improvement of a person.

Classification

There are several classifications. For example, according to her, material and spiritual values are distinguished. But according to their significance, the latter are false and true. The classification is also carried out by areas of activity, depending on their carrier, and by the time of action. According to the first, economic, religious and aesthetic are distinguished, the second - universal, group and personality values, and the third - eternal, long-term, short-term and momentary. In principle, there are also other classifications, but they are too narrow.

Material and spiritual values

We have already managed to tell about the first ones above, everything is clear with them. These are all the material goods that surround us that make our life possible. As for the spiritual, they are components of the inner world of people. And the initial categories here are good and evil. The former contribute to happiness, and the latter - everything that leads to destruction and is the cause of discontent and unhappiness. Spiritual - these are true values. However, in order to be so, they must coincide with the significance.

Religious and aesthetic values

Religion is based on unconditional belief in God, and it does not require any proof. Values in this area are guidelines in the life of believers, which are determined by the norms and motives of their actions and behavior in general. And aesthetic values are everything that gives a person pleasure. They are directly related to the concept of "beauty". They are associated with creativity, with art. The beautiful is the main category of aesthetic value. Creative people devote their lives to the creation of beauty, not only for themselves, but also for others, wishing to bring those around them true joy, delight, admiration.

Personal values

Each person has their own personal orientations. And they may differ from person to person. What is significant in the eyes of one person may not be valuable to another. For example, classical music, which brings fans of this genre into a state of ecstasy, may seem boring and uninteresting to someone. The personal values are greatly influenced by such factors as upbringing, education, social circle, environment, etc. Of course, the family has the strongest impact on the personality. This is the environment in which a person begins his primary development. He gets the first idea of values in his family (group values), however, with age, he can accept some of them and reject others.

The following types of values belong to personal values:

those that are components of the meaning of human life;
the most general semantic formations that are based on reflexes;
beliefs that relate to desired behavior or the completion of something;
objects and phenomena to which the individual has a weakness or is simply not indifferent;
what is important for every human being, and what he considers his property.

These are the types of personal values.

A new approach to defining values

Values are opinions (beliefs). Some scientists think so. According to them, these are biased and cold ideas. But when they start to activate, they mix with feelings, while getting a certain color. Others believe that the main values are the goals that people strive for - equality, freedom, welfare. And also it is a way of behavior that contributes to the achievement of these goals: mercy, empathy, honesty, etc. According to the same theory, true values should act as some standards that guide the assessment or choice of people, actions and events.

Life values organize a person's life. An individual can define important concepts for himself, but after that they govern his behavior. This is a set of internal rules, something that a person monitors compliance with independently.

Values, criteria and the basis for their growth

One should not think that life values always play a most important role in life. Few people are really guided by them. Values are discussed in conversations, but living every second to realize your values is not easy, not everyone can do this.

From a physiological point of view, a person exists to satisfy his needs, is guided by his habits and shows emotions when faced with unsatisfactory phenomena. The values of many people exist only in words, their implementation is not carried out. For them, life is determined by simple physiological mechanisms. It is necessary to become a personality, and for this you have to develop your own values. Thus, important life values require the achievement of a certain personal base.

Criteria for true inner values:

They are dear to a person, he is ready to stand up for them.
Awareness should be present in their choice, because the person should observe them without reminders.
The positivity of values makes a person proud.

The important point is understanding. It is impossible to change your life on your deathbed, so be aware of the interest and necessity of your life rules while there is time. If you know for sure what you want and what you value the most, fill every day of your life with that.

Formation of values

If on New Year's Eve you remember everything that was in the past and dream of what you have to do in the new year, then this is the best time to define your values in life. Write down everything that is important to you, and then all that remains is to monitor compliance with this. A sign of a truly developed personality is if a person is guided in actions and deeds by their values. The latter determine the goals, from which the plans and future of a person grow. More deliberate actions - more active growth of personality.

Everyone has their own unique set of internal rules. Usually, the formation of life values occurs before the onset of twelve years. We are influenced by parents, school and teachers, the surrounding culture, and so on. Values can be formed after they are realized and fully accepted. A full-fledged personality has ordered life values. She understands what is most important and comes first, and what is below or serves other purposes. The coincidence in the list of values helps to improve relations between people, and significant deviations give rise to conflict. Life values arise in childhood, thanks to the atmosphere around us. The natural formation of new values can occur by involving the individual in other conditions of life, where a new block of values is critically necessary for him.

Value categories

What else is known about the basic values in life? Can you count them? The whole list of life values is extensive, but everything is subject to classification. The synthon approach groups the basic life values of a normal person into three circles:

Work-related, business-related, business-related.
Relating to relationships and personal life.
Responsible for their own development.

These parts can be viewed in more detail.

Pleasure

Entertainment and rest, love, passion. This is joy and detachment, pleasure and life to the fullest. Your eventual journey to the dreamland, where sea and sand, for example, or mountains and snow await you. Playing roulette when everything is at stake, poker or an argument. Romantic cozy meetings in coffee houses, taking place in the twilight with your loved one next to you.

Relationship

Children, family, common understanding. Long, stable relationship of a loving couple. A question of fathers and children, eternal friendship and loved ones. Included in this category is the value of relationships with other people in principle. In addition, there is love here, but it has a different character, not passionate, but caring, affectionate and respectful. It is the joy of meeting your children and your spouse after a long day at work. This is the patient's sons helping elderly parents when they are unable to cope even with ordinary affairs.

Stability

Comfort, money, home. This group concerns a stable life and order. It concerns two concepts at once. "Comfort, money, home" are essential for the family and also support a good rest. Secondly, the financial issue affects the category "Work, business, business". To furnish a new apartment, the newlyweds go to Ikea. They have to spend a lot of time there, because whatever they want is too expensive and their budget is limited.

Purpose

Own projects and affairs. What are you spending your day on? What do you do at work? What's in your head before you fall asleep? This category contains everything that relates to your ideas, plans and work, your development. The teenager is fond of video and photography. He carefully sought out the best shots. Ten years later, the man has achieved incredible success and shoots videos. His next step is directing.

Status

Power, career, status. Thirst for a higher position in society, new influences and open doors. A businessman acquires more and more expensive cars, emphasizing their prestige. The model only goes shopping in branded stores. They demonstrate their position in society, because so much effort has been expended to achieve it.

Education

Professional development at work, self-education. The fulfillment of their professional tasks becomes more difficult without the proper level of education and the necessary experience. For this reason, the qualification affects the category "Work, business, business". Improving education and increasing skill leads to the development of a person as a person. The stylist carefully examines the appearance of celebrity on the red carpet, because it is important for him to get acquainted with the latest trends in fashion.

Self-development

Development of psychological and social skills, personal growth. Development category of individual characteristics. The growth of personality leads to conscious conclusions, increased attention to loved ones and others. Social skills mean the ability to behave in society, find a common language with different people. Psychological skills - dealing with your fears, controlling emotions, clarity of thoughts. People immediately appear next to a person when he monitors the manifestations of his feelings, is attentive to others.

Physiology

Health, beauty, development in harmony. Slimness, caring for appearance, good physical shape, ability to dance and gracefulness - all these are physiological values in life that are located on the border of two categories. The development of the body and attention to one's health leads to the development of the personality, therefore it comes into contact with the category of self-development. These values simultaneously affect relationships with the opposite sex, so the category "Relationships and Personal Life" develops in parallel.

Spirituality

Realization of goals, knowledge of the world around and life principles, growth of the spiritual sphere. It is difficult for you to leave a mark for future generations if you live only for yourself and your needs. You must watch your motives, the development of spiritual aspirations. Life goals and values are not formed through the purchase of fiction about spiritual practices, esotericism and the supernatural.

So, let's summarize. Every day we are faced with the need to solve certain problems, we are struggling with circumstances that adversely affect us. It is important in such situations to make a decision based on your own values. Self-esteem arises only if internal rules are followed. A person's life values give him peace of mind and stability.

Hello dear friends!

Every person living on the blue planet has the same list of important things to do every day. Some of them are familiar, banal and even everyday. Others are subject to completely different laws.

Each new day greets with new circumstances and rules of the game, which is able to wipe out the already shaky nerves. When difficulties arise, the vital values of a person are of great importance, which safely serve him as a kind of reference point in the Universal space of choice and decisions.

The value system helps to qualitatively answer the question: "Am I going there?", "Have I chosen the right path for my full-scale implementation?"

By understanding the essence of your beliefs and attitudes, it is much easier to overcome the difficulties that have arisen. People know that making sure they are on the right track will keep them on track.

When the statements, and most importantly the actions of the individual, are in full with life values, then all aspects of the manifestations become more massive and much more interesting, and therefore, we are satisfied with ourselves.

But when words and behavior diverge from the truths fished out by the subconscious, then at the same moment an uncomfortable and "scratching" feeling arises in the soul, as if irritation and panic will burst from the inside in a few minutes!

This inner feeling reminds the person that things have gone wrong. Moreover, the constant presence in such a depressed state is fraught with huge problems not only with the psyche, but also with health!

Only in the case of unshakable faith in values that are close in spirit, a person will be able to maintain the required level of self-esteem, confidence and simple, human happiness. But how can one determine the correct source of axioms?

Determining the main criteria

The main task of an individual is to isolate a list of values as early as possible, which is fundamental. This urgency is due to the fact that having made such a step, a person begins to more effectively form not only his character, but also his actions and long-term plans.

It should be understood that there are no universal laws applicable to the broad masses. We are all different and it is thanks to this that the significant landmarks of one will always disagree with the truths of the other, and the fifth or seventh will simply not consider it important.

And yet, what are the criteria for selection? I suggest that you familiarize yourself with the most common aspects of choice, which to one degree or another, but has a special attitude towards itself.

1. Her Majesty Love

This is perhaps the most well-known truth for women. And it's not about romance or a candlelit dinner. The question is not about dating, family, or the "candy-bouquet" period.

Each of us is able to experience this inspiring feeling. And you can see this in relation to relatives, or work. But now I am focusing your attention on the manifestation of love for other people, for those with whom you may never be able to meet.

Universal love for one's own kind, and sometimes for the whole family, is capable of fostering tolerance and compassion in a person. And when, nevertheless, we come to him, then we open an amazing facet of pure good, and not continuous negative qualities.

2. Deep understanding

We need to be understood and heard. Think about how many of us can be tormented by anger or anger simply because there is no desire to delve into other people's troubles?

Accepting the introductory circumstances and data, reconciling and understanding others, you can get not only complete control of the situation that has arisen, but also find a special approach to solving it.

3. Respect

This is one of the most important selection criteria. Like most deep-seated personal values, this one has its own unique niche. Acting under the auspices of such a respectful motto, you can achieve unrealistic heights.

Perhaps, respect applies to many aspects of the life of an ordinary person. It manifests itself in personal relationships, in a work environment and, of course, when communicating with your “I” and needs.

4. Iron discipline

Many people confuse the term with a tedious routine and a banal execution of a mechanical routine. But in reality, discipline closely borders not only punctuality, but also a respectful attitude towards other people's time.

So, the habit of bringing things to their logical conclusion, adhering to the rules woven by themselves, the individual characterizes himself as an educated, responsible person.

5. Honesty and fairness

Wishing to be a worthy reason to be proud of their own actions, an individual can make a choice towards this amazing value, which will serve him for many years with faith and support.

The fact is that honest people do not tolerate hypocrisy, rudeness, deception and many negative qualities that persistently strive to flash in thoughts.

Moreover, the definition of justice as the fundamental leitmotif in life allows us to build others on the same solid foundation.

I can endlessly sort through the layers of human "diamonds", which with their light help to walk around the world, receiving support. This list of basic criteria and values can safely include, without which it is difficult to climb up, and patience, which helps to achieve more, and friendship, and forgiveness, and especially -.

All our values are a kind of compass that allows us to navigate the world's oceans of events with an invincible ship. The initial list of those - can reach ten. But it is very important to be able to do a detailed analysis, leaving no more than 6 with you. Do you have problems with income level or relationships?

This happens because the model or picture of the inner world, unfortunately, does not coincide with the outer one. Is it especially difficult for you to make decisions? It's all about the lack of clear guidance and an answer to the question: "What do I really want?"

Only by following the whisper of life guidelines, a person will allow himself to live fully and consciously. When you have crystallized attitudes in your head, it is much easier to get support, regardless of the circumstances overboard. So what can be called the core values in life?

Chief among the main

A psychologically and physically healthy person can afford to form 3 main circles of "truths", gradually adding "especially personal" ones to it.

1. Relationships and personal life

The most powerful message of a thrifty, respectful attitude to loved ones is hidden here. The desire to start a family, have children and live a happy, family life.

We can say that these are the values of inner joy from a partner, romance, entertainment and a colossal charge of energy through travel.

2. Work, life's work, purely business

Why do you go to work? What do you get in return? And most importantly, does it suit you? The desire to become better, earn more and strive to conquer, along with the words "home, life and ideal comfort" are combined here together. Such value helps to move towards obtaining a new status, power and an increase in the level of self-esteem.

I mean, there is a hidden desire to work hard in order to get to the top of your Everest! This is a value that is directly related to ideas, plans and indirectly clings to the next point.

3. Comprehensive self-development

The main task is to know the inner world and tame the outer one, shouting: "Here I am!" It is impossible to build a good business without certain skills and knowledge. Therefore, the value of this order is aimed at accumulative, invisible wealth that helps a person develop the skill in which he sees himself.

Do not forget that they work with completely different vibrations, carrying with them a powerful charge of energies.

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Personal values are a reflection of our needs, desires, and everything that we especially value in life. Values are a tremendous driving force that can be seen as a guide through which we create our essence. Defining your values will help you figure out what to strive for and what to avoid. This will allow you to walk through life with a strong inner compass. Finally, in the most difficult situations, personal values can serve as a reminder of what you truly hold dear. Thus, identifying them will help you stay true to yourself in all circumstances.

Steps

Tracking emerging values

Clear space for "your" time. Since defining your personal values requires so-called self-discovery, make your own space for this. Turn off your phone, listen to soothing music, or do something to help you relax and focus on the present.

Write down your moments of greatest happiness and deepest sadness. Remember all your ups and downs, while highlighting the details and feelings associated with each memory. Include on the list only those things that have made the greatest impact on your life and well-being, not those for which you received praise or recognition from others.

For example, you might think back to the evening you met your best friend. It may not have been the biggest achievement of your life, but on that day you may have learned a lot about your personality and how to start making friends and sharing experiences with other people.
Identify the themes that run through your most vivid memories, good and bad. They can also be backed up by your spiritual or political leanings. You will most likely identify several things that make you feel injustice, sadness, anger, or all of the above. Try to do the same with happy moments.

Consider the common values of humanity. We all have relatively similar, very basic needs that come from constitutions and the evolution of human culture. The things we value ultimately stem from our needs - which is why we are so passionate and committed to our values! Exploring human needs will give you a powerful impetus to understand your own values. More or less universal needs include:
- Physical well-being (food, rest, safety)
- Autonomy (freedom of choice, self-expression)
- Peace (hope, calmness)
- Feelings (praise, participation, understanding)
- Communication (warmth, respect, attention)
- Entertainment (adventure, humor, joy)
Sketch an initial list of personal values. Include items that you cannot imagine your life without. In it, you can connect personal experience with your culture of values as well as universal human needs.
Record how you select these values. They can vary depending on the strategy you used. Often times, the strategy comes from the religion of the family in which you grew up. By knowing this, you will have a better understanding of the values that enable you to do things that you can be proud of.
- For example, you have value - a high position in society. But how will you follow it - will you wear designer clothes or will you become a human rights activist? If you value a deep sense of peace and order, would you set up a home-based essential oil plant in your home? Or maybe you are used to resolving conflicts that arise in your family? Trace the connection between values and your daily life.
Testing and balancing personal values
1. Determine what drives you in life. One way to help test your values is to spend an entire day observing and identifying what drives you in life. If you have a certain priority value, and you find yourself in a situation where it is threatened, you will feel anxious, defenseless, or even angry. What you hear or see on the news can also change the course of your life.
  - For example, your boss may tell you that your knitted vest is not the most appropriate outfit for work. Instead of just being a little upset, you might feel angry or even annoyed. In this case, you can say that your values are your own decision-making and autonomy.
2. Take a look at the decisions influenced by your values. This can be done using both real and fictional situations. For example, you value independence and are considering moving in a new roommate with you. What do you do when you consider your value? If you value peace and spontaneity, but your work takes 70 hours a week from you, how can you avoid stress and inner conflict? In situations like this, understanding your values can really help you make creative decisions that reflect your own self.
  - Keep in mind that you can only see your value most vividly when you make a real decision. Sometimes we are so fascinated by a certain value that we believe that it will definitely provoke the best decisions (although it does not have to).
3. Decide how you will defend it. If you are in a difficult situation and it is difficult for you to defend the correctness of your value, think about whether it is worth speaking up or not. Are you unable to live up to your value because everything in the world is changing? What value is at stake, and why?
  - Let's say you're in a relationship with someone who doesn't appreciate your work, and you've made it your goal to gain recognition for your efforts. Can this problem be solved by talking? Would you enjoy having your partner show you appreciation?
  - Another way to check is as follows. Speak to the community about an issue. Perhaps you are worried about the cuts in funding for public schools - would you like to know more about this, or are you somehow offended by this? Depending on the answer, your value can be both caring for future generations and a call to action.

Correct life values. Why you need to know your main values ​​in life